Saying: WHO I AM is more important than what I have. Especially when no one is watching.
Character: The Essence of Who We Are
Welcome to September, a month dedicated to exploring and celebrating the value of character. In a world that often emphasizes external achievements and material possessions, it's crucial to remember that "WHO I AM is more important than what I have." This saying holds true, especially when no one is watching. Character defines our core values, integrity, and how we show up in the world. So let's delve into the power of character and its significance in our lives.
These sayings originated as a result of me, a single Mom of 3, working to find a way to instill some of my values in my children. The most important one at the time was “Who I AM is more important than what I have”. There were influences that were of a more materialistic nature that I was hoping to deflect with this sentiment.
Character can be defined as the set of qualities that define an individual's moral and ethical makeup. It represents the beliefs, principles, and values that guide our thoughts, behaviors, and interactions with others. While external factors may change, such as our possessions or circumstances, our character remains constant and is the true essence of who we are.
The Importance of Character:
1. Building Trust and Resilient Relationships:
Character plays a vital role in establishing trust with others. When we consistently demonstrate honesty, reliability, and authenticity, we build deep and meaningful connections. People are drawn to individuals with strong character, knowing they can rely on them in times of need. Having positive character traits also helps us navigate challenges and bounce back from setbacks, fostering resilience in our personal and professional lives.
2. Leading with Integrity:
Integrity is at the heart of character. It means aligning our actions and words with our values and beliefs, even when no one is watching. It involves being true to ourselves and maintaining ethical behavior in all situations. When we lead with integrity, we earn respect and inspire those around us to do the same. It is through consistency in character that we establish a reputation for being trustworthy and honorable individuals. Integrity is the foundational Value. Ultimately, it means “honoring your word”! Say what you mean, and mean what you say! (and when you don’t, which is inevitable, OWN IT, apologize, and make a new agreement).
3. Making Ethical Decisions:
Character serves as our compass when faced with difficult choices. It guides us to make decisions based on our principles and values rather than succumbing to societal pressures or personal gain. Having a strong character helps us stay true to our moral compass, ensuring that our actions are ethical and aligned with our authentic selves.
Developing Character:
1. Reflect on Core Values:
Take time to reflect on your core values. Identify the qualities and principles that matter most to you. This self-reflection will provide clarity on what you stand for and guide your decision-making process.
2. Act with Conscious Intention:
Strive to align your actions with your values in every aspect of your life. Be mindful of the impact your choices have on yourself and those around you. Embrace opportunities for personal growth and continuously work on cultivating positive character traits.
3. Embrace Accountability:
Hold yourself accountable for your actions. Take responsibility for your words and behaviors, and be willing to learn from your mistakes. Embracing accountability fosters personal growth and strengthens your character over time.
REALLY consider your Values. Look at your checkbook and calendar, which are great reflections of what is most important to you. (Of course, no one has a checkbook anymore, right?). Where do you spend your time and money? Dig deep on this one. You may SAY that your most important value is your family, but your time and money are leaning heavily towards ‘entertainment’ as your highest value, ie. What do I watch? What do I read? What do I order? What do I eat? What do I play?...
As we navigate this ‘value’ let's remember the saying, "WHO I AM is more important than what I have. Especially when no one is watching." Character defines the essence of who we are, guiding our interactions, decisions, and impact on the world. By prioritizing character and cultivating positive traits, we can create a ripple effect of integrity, trust, and authenticity. Let's embrace the power of character and strive to be the best versions of ourselves, both when others are watching and when they're not.
