Charla Reads Chapters 13-18 in ‘Split-Second Transformation~Change Your Words, Change Your Life’
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Introduction
Good, beautiful day, beautiful, beautiful souls! This is Charla Anderson, host of the Charla Anderson Show~Collector & Connector of Fascinating People (& EVERYONE is Fascinating!), especially you.
Today, my Charla’s chat, which I do once a month, is continuing reading the books, split-second transformation, change your words, change your life, 31 daily practices. We’re going to start with chapter 13 today, and I’m looking forward to sharing this with you. Go back to the last two months, and listen to the first two segments of reading this book.
…BUT FIRST…
We’re going to have a breathing exercise. We’re going to take that 22-second mini vacation and breathe in some calm, breathe in some gratitude, or breathe out gratitude, and let’s just take this little tiny small speck of breath. Here we go. Bring it in some calm. Hold. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Let’s do that. Every day, multiple times, we could use that little break, don’t you think?
Okay, so this is my autographed copy. Of course, my three-year-old, I’m holding up the inside cover of the book, where my three-year-old granddaughter had photographed it for me a while back. So this is the book I get to read to you today. We’re going to begin with Chapter 13.
This book is 31 daily practices. This is a read-over and over and over again book. So you kind of start getting every word matters. I’m using your words. You know, don’t curse yourself, you know, a lot of times we’re cursing ourselves with our words. So let’s just begin understanding and practicing how to use our words more effectively to speak what we desire, not what we don’t desire, desires, you know, God gives us the desires of our heart, right? Okay, so I’m going to start with
Chapter 13:
It’s called jealousy, the most wasted emotion. I figured that out a long, long time ago. I just don’t do jealousy. Okay, so jealousy, the most wasted emotion. We witness it all the time, jealousy. It’s the most wasted emotion on earth. It never generates the desired result, which is most probably a more loving relationship. Never. Jealousy isn’t about love. It is about control. I want you all to myself, quote unquote. Jealousy wants to know where their mate is at all times. Jealousy checks their phone often surreptitiously. Jealousy is always looking for something wrong. Jealousy doesn’t allow for outside friendships. Jealousy doesn’t trust their mate. Three things. Look in the mirror. If you are fearful of their actions, often it is some because you are often capable of the same behavior and choose to protect projected onto them. To your insecurities, control, projection, sleuthing, obsessiveness, lack of trust, do not generate warm fuzzies and often have the opposite effect of them feeling trapped and smothered, which is exhausting.
And the number three, or maybe you think it is a way to show love as misguided as that is. So here’s the solution. The absolute best way to keep your mate, therefore your relationship happy, is to continually become a better version of yourself. Focus on making yourself your best self. And number two, treat them as if they are the person you want them to be, whether they actually can live up to it yet or even deserve it or not. Treat them as royalty with the bold faith that they will become that superstar that you want and deserve.
Trust them unconditionally. It will make them more trustworthy. Each second,
you have the opportunity to choose, choose trust. And if they leave, they don’t deserve you anyway. Bless them. That’s just little chapter 13. And here we’re going to read
Chapter 14:
Where you are is all you have. Man, I talk about this a lot. This is probably one of the most
obvious concepts and arguably most impactful. Yet I have never heard anyone clearly speak about it. When I am asked, how are you? I usually answer with I’m fabulous. And it’s a choice, right? Often I will laughingly add, I’m on this side of the dirt breathing free oxygen. Besides, where else do I have to take the next step from, but where I am right now? We are advised to live in the now to be present, to seize the moment, et cetera. What does that really mean? Actually recognizing that right now is all we really have that we don’t have last second, last minute, last week, last decade to take the next step from. We only have right now in this moment in time.
So you might as well embrace exactly where you are and love it, even if you don’t like it. You don’t have the last second or even the next second. You only have this one. In this second, you have the opportunity to take a breath, which proves that in this exact moment, right now, you are okay, regardless of the circumstances you are in. Think about that. If you can take a breath, in that instant, it proves that you are okay right now. You can choose to make a decision to take one more breath, take a step to the left or to the right or clear your mind, choose your attitude, apologize, forgive, smile, cry, change your life’s direction, choose love, choose to bless rather than curse, and any of the unlimited possibilities that are in this world for you right now. This is miraculous.
Grasping this can be life-changing at the very least, practice loving where you are because it is all you have. Even in horrific circumstances, you still have total control over your heart, mind, soul, emotions, and reactions. They cannot take that from you. Just ask any prisoner of war, survivor of trauma, etc.
In a split second, breathe and know that you are okay. Choose to live fully now. No more whining. It’s your life. Choose now. Breathe now. Chapter 14. That’s probably one of the most impactful ones in here. This, you know, where we are all we have, and I talk about it all the time, but you have nowhere else to be. You don’t like how you got here. You can’t change it, but you can change where you had it. An attitude is one of the biggest ways to change it. Absolutely. So in here we had it over to you.
Chapter 15:
Now I’m going to say this tab title, and I’m going to guess that you will understand it even if you never heard it. The chapter is the law of diminishing intent, and it’s pretty powerful once you grasp this. You are very familiar with this law, whether you recognize it or not. It is a universal law like the law of gravity. That is my assumption, not research, but I would love to know if you haven’t experienced it. There’s a moment that something or someone enters your thoughts. You have an idea.
You get inspired. Often it is accompanied by their thought, one of these days, and I ought to. What? When? I should, I should call them. I need to write that. Thank you, note. I ought to turn off the TV and write my book. As soon as I get home, as soon as the weather is better, the list is endless. You probably intimately know the familiar excuses later or someday, is always part of him. But do you know that not taking action in a very short period of time from right when the thought enters, the moment begins diminishing from your mind and will disappear altogether as time keeps on ticking?
It sometimes becomes a wistful memory of anything at all. The law of diminishing intent, intentions, they diminish without decisive action. And believe me, I pray that intentions do count because I have so many good ones. Yep. Sometimes it is those good God nudges that we should take action on the most. I call Aunt Ruth, visit neighbor John, send a get-well card to cousin Josh in the hospital. Sign up for that course. You’re familiar with the many stories of regret, aren’t you? Recognize that it is a law. Choose to act on those impulses now or as your first chance. Enroll in the class when you were inspired. Someday, often never arrives. What if you acted in five, four, three, two, one, blastoff?
You might want to read the five-second rule by Mel Robbins for some inspiration. Now she’s got one called Let Them, fabulous books. Mel Robbins. Listen to that still small voice. Listen and act now is procrastination diminishing. Your life’s worth and purpose. That is, I think that’s pretty powerful. I can’t tell you how many times in my world, you know, I’ll be driving and go, I need it. As soon as I get home, I need to call somebody or somebody pops in my mind and really the law is, if you don’t do it within the first hour, it’ll be 75% gone and 24 hours and probably 100% gone and 48. Yeah, it’s that important.So it’s not a happy law for me. We want to manage our intentions, right?
All right, so I’m going to do
Chapter 16:
Oh, we’re going to talk about my story, a split-second transformation. My life changed in one split second in early 2007, driving home after a very intensive weekend at Landmark Education. Late on Sunday night, I was so inspired to invite everybody I knew to go. So many people had been transformed in front of me that weekend that I wanted everyone to experience it.
I literally said out loud, “I can’t wait to share this.” It didn’t work for me, but dot, dot, dot. I hit the steering wheel at that moment and shouted, no, that’s been my story. I’m not, I’m not going to bed. This is what I’ve said to myself, coming home that late Sunday night, I’m not going to bed until I get my possibility. Part of the weekend is about getting over, getting your past out of your future so that your future is filled with endless possibilities. I decided I was not sleeping until I could complete this sentence because they’d given us a card to fill out with this sentence. The possibility I’m creating for myself and my life is the possibility of being dot, dot, dot. Several hours of sitting, staring blankly at that card, nothing.
Then suddenly my pen began moving and wrote, the possibility I’m creating for myself and my life is the possibility of being joyfully engaged in each and every moment and powerfully courageous and asking for what I need and want. What? Where did that come from? I’m, I eally, it was probably three or so in the morning, the night that pen finally moved. And, you know, I think I call it a god link, right? So in that split second, the bitterness that I had carried for years just disappeared, gone. I felt joy, complete peace, miraculous. The next morning, I saw 11:11 on the clock and I said, I choose joy after years of wishing for something negative when I saw that.
Many years later, I can honestly say it was a permanent shift, not constant, but I know that who I am is joy. The courageous part was delayed until 2015 and is still in process, for sure. On my birthday in 2012, my pastor, Orlando Reyes, told me that my name, Charla, is a derivative of joy in Greek. Really, I’d had a dogman joy, my signature was choose joy, I was transformed to joy.
My parents had no idea that the prophetic meaning included to chat in Spanish. What possibility are you creating? And I’m just going to reread that possibility that came out or re-speak it because it’s who I am. So transformation is permanent. It’s not constant, perhaps, but it is more in my life. So 2007 here is 2025 who I am is joy because I had a second moment of transformation from bitterness to joy.
The possibility I’m creating for myself in my life is the possibility of being joyfully engaged in each and every moment and powerfully courageous and asking for what I need and want. Change my life. You get to speak every word matters, every word, speak who you are, who you want to be. And it will happen. Okay, I’m going to take a many moment here. Just a many moment to tell you just a little bit about Zenzino, my wonderful little oil that one second a day shot of oil that transforms your omegas. It eliminates inflammation very quickly. And one to four months have taken a sip of oil every day. Your authority is pain. I don’t mean I just call it joy pain, whatever, the lot of things, hair, skin, joints, everything. It gets greased up a little bit with Zinzino balance oil plus. So I’m going to tell you a bit about that and we’ll be right back with chapter 17. Okay, chapter 17 and we’re back. Here we go. All right, I want to say in that product,
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Chapter 17:
Oh, here I say this a lot, man, I need to do it a lot more too. It’s easier to keep up than to catch up. Another truth here, right? Consider the split second it takes to pick something up and throw it away, put it away, wipe it up, hang it up. What if you actually did it instead of thinking about doing it? The mental energy that drains you every time you see something that needs doing or even think about it has a cumulative effect. That build-up of undone tasks is weighing you down, whether you realize it or not. It’s easier to keep up than to catch up. What would your home or office or car look like if there was no clutter? So do cans sitting around or counters and all the counters were clear. Your bed is made, your sink is empty. Imagine it.
It feels so good. Do you realize that you would never have to deep clean your bathroom if you actually wiped it down every day and cleaned the toilet for every week? Same with your bedroom kitchen, office and every other area of your life. Keep up with it, man. It’s a big lesson. Don’t look here. Do you know that clutter is one of the highest stressors and makes everything more difficult? What if that small step of doing it now became a belief? Not a belief. I have it. I have a belief too. What if we took the words putting this I’m just putting this just for now out of our vocabulary. How many things are still there weeks, months, or even years later?
I’m just going to set this here right for now. Just for now, it becomes a permanent place. I’m telling you. Just is often followed by an excuse. Just the word. Things accumulate, become fixtures, and before you know it, there’s just too much stuff and all that, all the, by the way, all the clear flat surfaces are magnets. So when you get it clear, you got to keep it clear, right? The heaviness and overwhelm of one of these days that seems to never come when it comes to catching up. Never has to happen when you do it now. Can’t be ruthless about what you bring into your castle in the first place. Yeah. Keeping up with in this split second saves so much catching up later. And I do, I’m going to just say something you know, have an attic and a garage that all need to be cleaned out of stuff that I’ve had for years and some of it years. I’ve probably had the first cradle in my 42-year-old son ever did in the attic somewhere, you know. And what I have really come to know and understand is I have so much to do. I’m so excited. It’s a bright book to speak, to talk to you, to build my businesses, always looking forward and to do, to clean that attic.
I have to stop all forward movement. I have to turn around and go back and go backwards and stop all momentum I’m creating here to go back and go through all the stuff. And it is very draining. And so for young people, you don’t need stuff. You need very little stuff. The minimalist movement, there’s something to be said about. Maybe not to an extreme, but what, you know, it’s baggage. Sweet. You know, I just want to encourage that so greatly that you understand that you don’t have to have more stuff. Keep it clean. Yeah. Oh, there was my soapbox on that.
Chapter 18, and I believe this will be the last one I read today,
Chapter 18:
Small disciplines, maybe it goes with that night. Let’s go with that other chapter, right? Small disciplines repeated over time can transform your life. Small good habits that literally take only a few moments can perpetuate a more peaceful environment and even better health. The same with small bad habits. For example, the choice to eat an apple every day or not can result in quite different outcomes down the road that aren’t necessarily evident immediately, but rather show up incrementally a few pounds later, right?
So that’s Jim Rome was a master and that was his example of small disciplines of eating an apple a day rather than a candy bar a day. Six months from now, you might start noticing the difference. Undone tasks, that’s undone tasks that suck energy from my life are just talking about this are an attic and garage full of memorabilia and stuff that need to be gone through. Not to mention the way too many and unnecessarily excessive computer files, photos, duplicates, and paperwork, it’s overwhelming. So we procrastinate because there is always something in front of us doing all those things require looking backwards and not towards the future. Yeah, we just talked about that. Didn’t realize it was my next chapter. Oh, how I wish I had made disciplined choices each day rather than succumbed to indecisiveness and procrastination, leading to piles of stuff. These unfinished tasks are always lurking in the background. One of our lives, oh, sorry, those unfinished tasks are always lurking in the background of our lives, even in our subconscious, stealing away our joy.
We know that if we don’t discipline ourselves to tackle those unpleasant areas that someone will ultimately have to do it and most likely much of your history will be lost. Conversely, exercising small, positive habits over time by taking action now is called adulting in new language here. Can bit by bit help us wake up each day to a smoother, more organized and peaceful life, taking one box or drawer at a time to begin the cleaning, cleansing. Perhaps just once a week, you may buy here and have a nicer castle to enjoy. Another reminder to use major discernment and discipline as to what you let enter your space. Be ruthless. Discipline yourself to not bring anything into your precious space until unless you love it or need it and actually use it. Ding, ding, ding. There’s next month.
I’ll be reading some more chapters starting with Chapter 19 which is called Split Second Purpose. What about that? We talk about Split Second Purpose in my Candy Bar Hugs book. Yeah, it’s a good one. So I’m looking forward to sharing that with you guys next month. I am every fourth Wednesday do the the Charla’s Chat as right now. I’m just going through this one of my books. It’s really, you know, you can go on Amazon and get split second transformation, change your word, change your live 31 daily practices. It is definitely worth having. It’s a bedside book that you can remember, you know, try to read multiple times for the reminders, seriously. So I want to I’m going to mention one other thing.
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