Your PURPOSE is Who You ARE! Right NOW!
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Introduction
Good, beautiful day, beautiful, beautiful souls! This is Charla Anderson, host of the Charla Anderson Show~Collector & Connector of Fascinating People (& EVERYONE is Fascinating!), especially you.
So purpose. What’s the deal about purpose? That’s so hard? Can we find a way to find our purpose? What if it’s who you are right now how you treat other people right in front of you. We’re gonna talk about all that. Your purpose is who you are right now. And
…BUT FIRST…
let’s do our little breathing exercise. You know we’re going to be breathing.
the 22 second mini vacation. We’re going to take in some calm hold for 4, 7 seconds of calm, 4 seconds of holding and 11 seconds of gratitude breathing out. So here we go. Let’s breathe in some calm.
Hold, relax, release. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
So what do you think? Don’t you wish we would do that a little bit more often every single day? If you’re on live stream, you might just come on over. This is the last chance to be in my audience live. We’re changing platforms, next week we will be the last show on Win Win Women. They’re closing down. We’re keeping going. So I’m so excited all the new things that are coming. And we’re talking purpose today.
Isn’t that interesting?
I’m wanting to just let you know that. And in fact, I’m going to read something out of my tiny book, Candy Bar Hugs. It doesn’t take much to make a difference. Tiny book. It’s on Amazon for $5.55. It is a tiny book, 25 min. Read on Audible.
It’s very special. It’s got so many nuggets in it. But in the introduction, and I’m just going to read this to you. We are always searching for our purpose. What if your purpose is evidenced by how you treat every single human being right in front of you.
What if there is no need to search? What if it could? If you could just be your purpose in every single moment. It is your character, it is your values, it is your integrity, and it is the word that you speak.
Your purpose is who you are in the next chapter. In loving it goes on in loving the next person we meet, and giving them a kind word, a smile, a nice touch on the shoulder or even a hug. We begin shifting the energy around us, around us, the and around the environment and the environment lightens up.
And it truly doesn’t take much to make a difference when we finally realize that the way we treat each other is a mirror of the way we see ourselves and that unconditional love without judgment is truly the only way to improve our world, and that it must start within each of us.
We become instruments of transformation. That’s just in the introduction of this tiny book. I can’t stress enough how how important this tiny book can be in your world. Candy Bar Hugs and it looks like live stream isn’t even working so. Who knows?
Maybe have stopped that already?
And because every 4th Wednesday I do a solo show.
The other day I had a call with a potential client. She was coaching and and she has had received. She had heard my talk on International Women’s Day, and would had gotten my positively empowered workbook and think book. It’s a 7 Day guide to boosting your confidence and finding your purpose. And she. We had a call, and she’s asked me a question. She’s going.
How do you figure out what your purpose is?
She said, You know some people say you’ve got to set your goals, and you’re taught. You know all your things, set your self up and think, and think, and think and worry about it, and you know and and work through it, and find your purpose. And other people say, No. God gives you your purpose. You just stay and you wait and wait on God. Wait to hear the message.
and I told her I was like, I believe. Who we are is our purpose. Who we are right. This second is our purpose. Who we who wespeak, who we say we are. I believe we can have split second transformations. Change your words, change your life. 31 daily practices is my second book
also on Amazon. And this book talks about every word matters. Okay. But I believe we I had a split second transformation. I believe many people have, you know, something shifts. And all of a sudden that transformation. And when you get a real transformation, it’s not.
It may not be constant, but it is permanent. So in my split second transformation, I went from bitterness to joy in just a moment. and that was in 2007, and who I am is joy. Right? So it became who I am. There was. There are certainly moments that that I wasn’t. But it’s almost. It’s pretty constant for me. And so once you get that transformation a split second. So what if we don’t have to work so hard.
What if we don’t have to strive?
What if we can just be in every single moment our best selves?
What if we choose? It’s all choice. We choose to be our best self ever.and when we take, do the right thing and take, do the take the high road, my mama said, you know. Take the high road.and we do the right thing, and we treat the person right in front of us with respect and unconditional love. And I mean, what if that’s the way you walked in your life every day?
What if that’s who you are? You become the light, the light that people are searching for you attract the the hurting, and and guess what another. Where did I put the book? Another in my, in this book Tiny book says, unconditional love, unconditional forgiveness. not unconditional boundaries. So I will always I’ll never
you know. I always say I love the people love love love, love, and the harder they are to love, the more they need it. Right. The harder, they are to love the more they need it and love them. Anyway. It doesn’t mean you take abuse. I’m not saying that not unconditional boundaries ever, but
you know, when you can just walk through and love as as God loves love as God loves. If God is love, he can’t be, not love.
What if you could walk?
Is that as your purpose? Who I am is love. Who I am is light, who I am, whatever you say, and you hear me say that’s in that book a split second transformation. Every word matters, and what you say after the words I am is who you are. never claim things you don’t want.
Speak what you desire, not what you don’t, and I always said, Don’t speak what you want, know what you don’t want, but desire is of the father. God gives you the desires of your, of your heart. Isn’t that interesting of the father of the giver Whoa want means lack? So I’m shifting that word in my, in my language.
For me we can. It’s all choice, right? So what if your purpose isn’t hard? You just be your best. Be your purpose. Every moment is who you are, and the rest comes together, the rest falls in place, the purposes, and then you find your vision and your mission, and your and the and the values your values are so incredibly important. Get clear on those values. What’s your highest value?
You know, integrity, the definite one of the definitions of integrity is honoring your word.honoring your words. Speak what you mean. Say what you mean. Do you know, Honor, that whatever you speak honor that. and when you mess up because we mess up? Yeah, we’re human when you mess up shift that
I’m sorry I messed up. I didn’t honor my word. I apologize. Make a new agreement. and then honor your word. You know it can be simple. I’m not saying easy to to grasp this concept of. Just be. you know we hear, be in the present be in the moment we know what all that, and I never really could understand. What that, how right, how do we do that?
But it becomes easier and easier as you, as you practice being love being love, who I am outrageously courageous. I am outrageously optimistic. I am bold, faith, no fear I am. Just a light in the dark world.Speak those things and speak them every day, every constantly in everything.
Give thanks, thank you, thank you. Thank you. Thank you for helping me.
My best. Thank you for everything and everything. Give thanks, and that really means everything. If you don’t like where you are, no one else is going to save you. Out of that you get to choose. if you don’t like where you are. Speak a different word.
Every word matters. Speak a different word. Take a different step next step. You can’t change those steps that got you here. If you don’t like where you are. take a different step, say a different word. Say who I am is an overcomer who I am is constantly oh, getting better and better and better if you’re in the gutter
you’ve been provided for, if you can take a breath. So this is the deal. If you can take a breath.You have been provided for. You’re breathing free oxygen, as my mentor, Benson Agbatorgo, says, you’re breathing free oxygen. And I say, on this side of the dirt in Texas.
You know, that’s my way of being when we can recognize and be thankful for just the air that comes into our lungs. you know I will never diminish the the pain and and what people are going through. I have no judgment period. but I would always encourage if you don’t like exact, if you don’t like yourself right now.
who’s gonna what can you do about that?
The only thing, really, the next step is to change your words and sometimes change your thinking. But what you, as a man think you know what you think actually is
what you get. So what you’re focusing on is what you’re receiving. It’s what you’re getting more of and so upset draws upset. If you’re focusing on what’s wrong.
you’re going to get more of what’s wrong.
Start focusing what you see, your vision of the what you know you would love to have in the future. Then. yeah, you’re gonna start drawing that to you as well. You’re finding your purpose, you know. I just feel like so many, so many of us have just been confused and complicated thing, and things have gotten complicated.But it’s not that complicated to just, huh!
What can I do right now?
That will make the biggest difference in my day. I’m re. Oh, I don’t have it right here. I’m reading the book. The one thing I read the book actually. It’s life changing. I have it.
The founder of Keller Williams wrote this book the one thing very, very powerful perspective change for me, even though I knew it. It reminded me right? So we we a lot of things we forget, we know, and we need a reminder.
But anyway, and I’m reminded that what if I focused on the most important thing right now to make that would make my world better and make the rest of my life or my to do list either easier or disappear. Huh! And that concept is pretty powerful. I would encourage you to take a look at that book. And you know I have a couple of things. I’ve got this little sticky note right here. It says all is well.
Everything is always working out for me. Isn’t that
kind of a fun thing to say. Everything is always working out for me. If it doesn’t feel like it right this second, you still can’t change anything that made you get here, you can only change a way to get out. And sometimes, just you know. you know, people that are going through hard things depression. You know things that are overwhelming.
Just keep breathing your free oxygen. Keep. Thank you. And if you can’t, then this is my kind of a fun thing I’ve been saying lately. It’s like gratitude and everything. Give thanks, and if you can’t think of anything to be thankful for, besides, maybe oxygen. Besides, let me tell you, and you know, you know, running water toilets.
a lot of things to be thankful for. Toenails.
Huh!
In our in our life. Better because we have toenails. So it doesn’t have to be big. But think of 3 things every time you’re not, you know. You start focusing on what you don’t like.
Then perhaps you start thinking of 3 things you do like, even in the worst circumstance. If you can take a breath, you have the opportunity to take the next step, to make things different. Choose a different path every single time, every single time. And I’m not saying necessarily easy, but it is simple.
We don’t have to complicate things. I’m you know. Here I am in my seventies. I ain’t quitting, but I do things what you know. Looking back. Do I wish I would have done things differently? Probably. Yeah, absolutely. If I really was honest with myself. There’s a lot of things that I would change so many.
And again in in this book tiny book, candy bar hugs. It doesn’t take much to make a difference. I wrote a little in the dedication to my kids the dedication I so I wrote this. It says I did what I did. I didn’t do what I didn’t do. I did all that I knew to do with what I knew at the time. just like you did and are doing in your life right now. I love you.
I call it a forgiveness. Release. because I can’t change any of those things I ever did, good or bad, right or wrong, I cannot change one of them I can acknowledge I can say yes. you know. I wish I had done things differently, but it’s what’s so you got to deal with. What’s so, and what so is where you are right now, what’s so? Your circumstances, your circumstances, aren’t who you are.
but who you are can manage the circumstances. Have you thought of that?
You can’t change any of that?
You only can change the next step. and when you realize that you have the power in your tongue to change your next word, your next step, your next action. Consider. That’s the only thing you have.
That’s it. There’s nothing else to do If you don’t like where you are, if you’re, you know depression so often, you know, you’re focused so strongly on the pain or the hurt or the upset that you’ve. You know it’s sometimes challenging to shift out of that. But what you can do is.you know, can you think of anybody that has has it worse off than I mean, better off than you, and of course we can all think of a million people that have things
much better off than me. And they have all this stuff, and that’s what I need, and that you know all that we could get into that. But you can you think of anybody that has it worse off than you, I guarantee you. There are many people that have things worse off than we do.
hey? We live in America, which is. you know, we certainly got a problems, but very seldom are we having to eat dirt. you know, very seldom in our in our society. Right? So I’m looking at considering. I just want you to consider that if you speak a different word. you know what’s going on so often. And I say this, almost every show, somehow or another, comes up. But
you know bullies are victims, too. They they don’t love themselves enough to know how to treat someone else. and so they’re lashing out. I tell my grandkids, you know, hey? Nobody can hurt your feelings or make you upset without your permission. You’ve got to allow that you’ve got to take it personally.
The 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The number one book I’ve recommended for over probably 15 years has the I mean, be impeccable with your word. Don’t take things personally. Imagine that. Don’t be. Don’t make assumptions. Imagine that, and always do your best. Those are the 4 agreements. Amazing
amazing concept to make it so simple. But always don’t take things personally. Allow. Imagine I’m putting my backs of my hands together and going. I’m going to have a shield of protection, and let whatever others do say towards me, un-affect me.
I’m going to wear my shield of protection. I teach the kids to, you know. Step into an eggshell and don’t let. Don’t take things personally, and and when when you get upset, when somebody say bullies you or you’re you know you don’t be the victim.
Just see that person as someone who doesn’t know how to love themselves enough to treat others better like, I said, not unconditional boundaries. But perhaps you know, even in a school setting where your kids, you know, you can go the next day, just go up and shake their hand and meet, say, Hey, look! My name is something we kind of had a rough, a rough day yesterday, but you know.
let’s let you know. Can I sit with you at lunch?
Can I get to know you?
Can I be your friend?
You know that simplification right here, but I want to encourage, not taking things personally, because so seldom is it about you. People say what they say and do what they do because of where they are and who they are, not, who you are and you you might be in their way, but most of the time they’re sad, sad
people on the inside that don’t know how to love the others sadly. So we get back to purpose. If your purpose is, you know who how you treat the person right in front of you in any given moment. Isn’t that
doesn’t that simplify it a little bit? What if it’s the golden rule? Because I think it is your purpose is, is due unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Love as God loves. What if you just chose that path?
What do you think?
Does it? Does it simplify how you how you define yourself?
Because that’s your purpose. There’s yeah God’s. Gonna and you stand in that you’re gonna receive, you’re gonna receive an idea or a vision. If you stand in being open to receiving
every word matters in your thoughts, you know, when you be still and know. That’s why I do the breathing exercise. When you be still and take a few minutes to turn off those devices to be still, lay out and on the grass, and look at the stars, and and and be take a few moments, just a few moments to be still. Listen, turn off that
chatter, you know. That’s always going on in your mind, telling you all the things that they told you yesterday that they told you the day before, and have told you for years the same same stories, 90 something percent of what you here in your head. The little chatter
is a repeat of the past. It will never, ever, ever, ever tell you it’s safe to do something new. So what if you slow down that little voice a bit. Thank thank you for sharing. I’m going to take a deep breath. I’m going to be still and listen to the deep voice
in me. I’m going to receive that deeper voice and guess what ideas come. It’s called meditation prayers. Talking right here is asking prayers, talking, meditation is listening, receiving the still, small voice that’s inside of you
that will have that has all the answers already, truly do. You’ve already got all the answers you’ve got everything you need inside of you. Everything is already inside of you to do what you need to do to be who you need to be. We need to. Sometimes.
you know, just really take a moment, a few moments, sometimes 20 min, sometimes an hour, sometimes 5 min, even a deep 22 second breathing to calm. My, my 3 year old granddaughter, when she she’s upset, and she’ll start going, and she knows to breathe.
She knows to do tapping. She knows to how to. I’m teaching her how to self monitor and and minimize that upset in a timely way. And and what if we all learned that at 3 years old. Right? Wouldn’t that be amazing?
I’m you know this is my Charla’’s Chat show, and we’re moving to a no whole different system next month in May, and then
it won’t. It won’t appear much different, I think, to most people. But still gonna look on Youtube. The Charla Anderson show on Youtube is it’s got. I don’t know 300 and something videos on there. Many of them are 30 min an hour. My guests are incredible. We’re learning overcoming stories. I totally ask you to please check my Youtube channel out, subscribe
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I love you. God loves you, you are loved, you’re perfect exactly who and where you are there is nowhere else you have to be than where you are right, this second nowhere, I mean everything, since let there be time is let there be light in the beginning. has brought this moment in time where you’re listening or watching this show right now. These words right now.
and you have nowhere else to be than where you are, and it’s the only place you have to change that next step, or take a different speak a different word. So everything is orchestrated to have us in this moment. You listening to me right, this second everything.
It’s pretty remarkable. God loves you. There’s nothing you can do to be loved more or less by God. and I say I love you, and I want you to be your absolute best, the best you can possibly be on this planet at this time. In this season we are living in the most incredible
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This is Charla Anderson, host of the Charla Anderson show, and as I
Always always always end my shows, I ask. I intend, I expect, for you to always choose joy.
I mentioned my book:
“Candy Bar Hugs~It Doesn’t Take Much to Make a Difference” https://amzn.to/2JSGeUl
“Split-Second Transformation~Change Your Words, Change Your Life: 31 Daily Practices” https://amzn.to/3waHuOn
“The Four Agreements” by don Miguel Ruiz: http://amzn.to/2AYLQGG
I mentioned my ‘I AM Affirmations for Living a Joyful Life of Intentional Significance’. Please email me for a copy:
Charla@CharlaAnderson.com
I mentioned my ‘Courageous Clarity Coaching: Inspiring Women (and men) of Faith to Find Their Voice, Cultivate Their Confidence & Leave a Legacy of Love’. 12 Weeks to Courageous Clarity
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