Where You Are Is All You Have. Might as Well Love It!

The Charla Anderson Show | Charla’s Chat

Charla flies solo today, sharing her wit and wisdom about life and love. With a name that means ‘chat’ in Spanish and ‘joy’ in Greek, there is always something to talk about. Listen in to Charla’s Chat.


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Where You Are Is All You Have. Might as Well Love It!

I’m super excited to have you with me. This is season two. It will be a solo show. I'm going to talk about things that I'm into, loving, offering hope, and inspiration and encouragement. I'm thanking you so much for listening and joining me. I wanted to start with the little meditation that I do every show. Let's do that. Helps me get centered and grounded, and should you as well. We're going to breathe in calm for seven seconds. We're going to hold for four seconds. We're going to breathe out. Gratitude.

Being Present And Taking Control

Are you ready? Can you join me here? We're going to breathe in some calm. Hold. Release. Thank you.

I love Win Win Women, the comradery and Paula Fellingham, the leader. If you ever wanted to be a show host or something along this line, please reach out to me. If I can do this, you can do this. That's for sure.

In this episode, I put the title as Where You ARE is All You Have. Might as Well Love It!

That's a theme that I talk about quite a bit and you probably know it, if you listen to this very much because I always heard, “Be in the present. Be in the now. Be right here, right now.” I don't guess I ever got that. It's a concept that, “I'm here. Where else am I going to be?” One of the ways to say that is where you are right this second is truly the only place you have to be. You cannot be anywhere else than where you are right this second. If you don't like it, you have the next second to change it. You don't have the last second, last week or last generation. You only have this second.

The Charla Anderson Show | Charla’s Chat
Charla’s Chat: This second is truly the only place you have to be. You cannot be anywhere else. If you don’t like it, you have the next second to change it.

If you accept where you are at this second, even if you don't love it, don't like it or you're in the gutter or in a horrible circumstance, if you take time to recognize that it's the only place you have to take the next step from. Where else could you take it from? We can't take it from last week, last minute or last second. I can't change the words I just said. I can only change the next one. This concept of living in the now, being in the now, being present and accepting wherever you happen to be is a huge concept. I don't believe I was ever able to grasp it before.

This is one of those concepts that I talk about quite a bit. I want people to understand that even if you're in the most horrific circumstance of your life right now, if you can take a breath, then you have been provided for one way or the other. If you have breath in you, then you have been provided for to this point of your existence. Why not start appreciating that a little bit more? You get what you think about. You've heard that and I talk about that a lot too. This is my show and my way of trying to give back to humanity and share hope, encouragement, joy, happiness and kindness.

My name means joy in Greek. It means to chat in Spanish. I'm able to talk, but I choose joy no matter where. I'm a Zig Ziglar legacy certified trainer. If you ever want to get more engaged with the Ziglar's, they have a Monday morning call that's free every week. The Zig Ziglar's children, Tom and Julie and Cindy are good friends of mine. Every week for many years on Monday mornings, they've gotten together. We do it on Zoom most of the time now. The conversation was about joy and every circumstance because if you can breathe, you are provided for, and you've been provided for. As you have one more breath, take it. Enjoy your existence.

I know there are a lot of people who are hurting and have no concept of how they could be joyful because of lots of crazy things going on out in our world, but I can't control all of that. I can't control the world, but I can control my world, which blesses the world. I can't control the world, but I can control my world. That extends on out, we can take that and bless our world. Smile at your neighbor. I offer a candy bar to the people at the checkout and then I offer, “What's your favorite candy bar?” I offer them a hug.

I wrote a book that came out about 6 years ago. The Candy Bar Hugs: It Doesn't Take Much To Make A Difference! I hope you have it. It's only 5.55 on Amazon. It's on audible. You can get it all different kinds of ways. I encourage you and would love for you to read that book. It's a tiny book, 25 minutes. It doesn't take long to read it. It's got a powerful big message. One of the messages in there is, “You can't change the world, but you can change your world, which changes the world.” That means taking care of your neighbors, picking up a piece of trash, and litter, and leaving the world a better place.

My mama always said, “Leave the world a better place." Make it better. Don't leave a mess for someone else to clean up after. Think about that. What if we all picked up after ourselves and wiped the counters for the next person? Small things that make a big difference. My mom always was trying to do that, and I believe she did because she had four beautiful girls. We care a lot about making a difference in the world. When she taught that and taught it to us, now we get to tell you.


It's easier for me to have guests because I have somebody to talk to, encourage and uplift. I love hearing their stories and sharing the ways of overcoming, hope and all those things because every single solitary one of us has a story. Along the way on this show, I will also be promoting a few things that I love. You could pay me $1 million and I promise you, I would not endorse something I don't believe in. I wouldn't endorse McDonald's. I only promote things that I love. These are a few of my favorite things. I sing that song a lot, walking around that I have the things that are important to me and that I love.

One of them is Course Platform Academy.

My friend Georges. He lives in France, my web guy. I've known him for a few years, and he's done amazing things with a small group of us that have become friends over time. I guarantee you that with Course Platform Academy,  I can't say enough. I call him St. Georges. He's a miracle worker in many ways. I'm going to put affiliate links in some of these things. Let me say affiliate marketing. I love affiliate marketing because I promote things that I love, and why not?

It's a win-win. You buy my books. I have a link on Amazon for certain things. When you buy them, I might get $0.13 or something. It's not a big deal. Some of them are bigger than others. For Course Platform Academy, if you need a website, you need it done for you or with you, or if you need to learn how to do affiliate programs even, memberships, email marketing or blog, he's got courses on all of those things. I love many things.

You see the Zeal. This is not just a commercial here. I have to be a raving fan for me to mention these things. In 2008, I ran across a company called Zurvita. I fell in love with the people, the founders, the formulators and the members. I fell in love with them. That's a long time. Since 2008 I've been with that company. When I find something I love, I'm pretty loyal.  There’s Zeal Wellness behind me. It's nothing but superfoods and energy. What other 70-year-old has more energy than I do? Here it is. I'm shaking my little Zeal, and I will take a sip of it. Great tasting.

There are several different flavors, and you can mix it with anything cold. It gives energy and nothing but superfood nutrition. It’s made in Texas, which is one of my favorite parts. Zurvita has collagen for your skin (Zundora) and memory-boosting coffee. I have been drinking Zurge, and I love it. I do believe it makes a difference. I know the formulators too. I feel like I've got an inside track on the quality of these products that I love. Those are a couple of things.

Knowing Where You Are

To go back into the messages of Where You ARE is All You Have. Might as Well Love It!, how do you start doing that if you don't love where you are? One thing, list everything that's wrong, that's bad, things that you don't like about your life. Take a look at it, get an inventory, know where you are and then go, “This is where I am. Do I have control over any of it?” Consider, “Is there anybody that I personally know that has a better life than me?” There is. Many people have better lives than us.

Another more important question is probably is there anybody that you know that's worse off that you'd prefer, that you would never want to exchange places with? Is that true? There are people who are worse off than you. You might start thinking about that. Maybe start listing that down. What is the fastest way to appreciate your life? Gratitude! The fastest way is to turn off the programming machine. That black box. It is always running, probably in your environment. It's a programming machine, and it's programmed to not make you healthier, wiser or happier.

Turn it off, especially the news. I don't listen to it. I haven't for years. I gave up TV  between 7th and 8th grade, thank goodness. I didn't know what a blessing at this point that would've been, but it is. That's probably the fastest way then start, what are you grateful for? I have a mentor. Benson Agbortogo. He says, “Keep breathing free oxygen.” The way I say it is like, “I'm breathing free oxygen on this side of the dirt, and I'm in Texas.”, lol.

Oxygen is something to be grateful for, and it is always free, even if it's in a machine. It's the machine you're paying for, not the air. One of the few things we can say that about. Why not? Be thankful for everything and in everything, give thanks. If you're in the worst circumstance, in the gutter, I want to let you know, you can't be loved more or less by God. If God is love, he can't be not love. If you're in the gutter or if you're in the castle, he loves you. You are loved.

Speaking What You Want

The sad part a lot of times is we don't love ourselves enough to love others. When we start to take care of ourselves and learn to love ourselves truly, and be grateful for who we are, I do think we'll start recognizing that we don't have to be bitter, angry,  unconditional love, unconditional forgiveness, not unconditional boundaries. I'm weaving in and out with things that. You should have my Split-Second Transformation Change Your Words, Change Your Life: 31 Daily Practices. This little book is a life changer. It's small, a bit bigger than Candy Bar Hugs.  It's 31 little tiny chapters of change your words and change your life.

Can you imagine that? If it's not time to go to bed, if you're tired in the middle of the day and you're like, “I've got so much to do,” what if you shifted that one word? This is the example I use more than any. You've probably heard it, but, “I'm refreshed,” instead of saying, “I'm tired,” which does not make you less tired, you could shift that one word. Change your words. Change your life, “I'm refreshed. I'm energized. I'm pumped.” It probably feels like you're lying to yourself, but I guarantee you it'll start changing your state of mind. Mindset is everything. Another consideration, and this is a big one. What are you claiming for yourself? What is the "I Am" in you?

When you say, “I am,” it's who you are. When you say, “I am tired,” you are tired. That's who you are in that moment. When you breathe the breath of life, the I am of life, that's the God in you. God's word is I am. It’s his name. When we claim that, we're claiming the goodness and greatness of ourselves. What if we started loving ourselves enough to claim life, speak life and not death? Speak what you want. Want not what you don't want. If you have been diagnosed with something, you don't have to claim it. You don't have to say, “I have.” You can say, “I've been diagnosed with something and I've got some stuff I got to deal with,” but don't claim it because every word matters!

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I guarantee you, that if you start watching your words and quit cursing your words, your life with your words, you have a better life. No doubt. Speak what you want and not what you don't want. What does that look like? I don't want to claim things that I don't want. I don't want to speak to them. If I do and what I do, because I certainly do, I sometimes cancel. I don't want to claim disease, “I don't have something; I was diagnosed with something.” That's a different energy around that. It's not the same words.

Identifying Your Purpose

One of my bigger messages is to speak life, not death. Speak health and don't claim things you don't want. These are little life lessons I'm hoping you understand that I didn't always know these things or act on these things either. A lot of times I'm preaching to the choir because most of the people that I am around nowadays are light and love. We'll talk about purpose. Another little part in my Candy Bar Hugs book in the introduction says, “Everybody's searching for their purpose. What if you don't have to search? What if your purpose is who you are? What if your purpose is how you treat the person right in front of you?”

That is as high as you can get. If you're kind to the person right in front of you. Let me say, "the harder people are to love, the more they need it". That means we get to embrace our grace and share our hearts, love, compassion and empathy because if somebody's not very nice or a bully, I’m pretty sure that they don't love themselves very much. "Unconditional love, unconditional forgiveness, but not unconditional boundaries" doesn't mean you don't have boundaries, take care of yourself and protect yourself. Another way to do that is, if they're hard to love, it's not necessarily in your presence, but when you think of someone that's harsher, that you're not crazy about, send them blessings.

“May you be blessed.” A master is one who blesses. It's another thing my mom did. She would hear sirens and she was always sending blessings to others. I don't know if you've heard of The Butterfly Effect where when a butterfly flaps its wings, it's a ripple effect. Every single solitary thing we do is a ripple effect. Since we're all connected in this one universe, we're all in this one energetic connection. They've proven over and over now, scientifically that there is a connection and it's fun to be aware of that and think that what you say and do has a longer-lasting effect than you may know.

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Charla’s Chat: When you breathe the breath of life, it signifies God is within you.

I mentioned boundaries. I'm just throwing it out there. I am working my way towards a little mini workshop or my masterclass of some sort, boundaries, perhaps, even with adult children or sometimes boundaries with ourselves. A little bit of a conversation about how we can support each other around that, keeping boundaries, and having the stance that we have the sense of control of ourselves to express boundaries, cleanly and clearly and assertively without being aggressive. Maybe assertiveness and aggressiveness are two completely different topics.

Books And Authors

I've got a couple of other books. I'm in a compilation book, A Daily Gift of Hope with Teresa Velardi. She's been on my show. She's a wonderful publisher. She's got a heart of gold. She's also got A Daily Gift of Gratitude and coming out the A Daily Gift of Kindness, which I'm pretty sure I'll be in that one as well, making chapters and sharing the goodness of our world every day. Another book I'm thrilled about, that I am going to be on the cover with Les Brown. There's a compilation book called The Change. It's a book series we're looking for authors. I'm in book number 21. These guys, Jim Britt and Jim Lutes have been doing this and probably were the originators of the compilation books concept.

What I've learned in this little group as we're starting to get my book chapter out, and then Les Brown is endorsing it, he writes the forward, and my picture will be on the cover with Les Brown. Is that cool? I'm excited about that. That's coming out this summer. If you want to be an author and be in any of these books, you are a published author when you are in a compilation book, or if you write your own book. I've got publishers, Beyond Publishing and Teresa Velardi's Publishing, and now The Change book series. I'd love to encourage some of my friends to be in that book.

They reached out to me. I was like, “Why me? I'm nobody.” They said, “Why not you?” I’m like, “ I don't have anything to show.” They were very complimentary to me. It's about finding people that have good messages, hearts and in our world. We were looking for that. It's going to be fun. If you want to be in one of the books, please reach out to me. We're pulling things together. What I love probably best is that I have one-on-one caching and a mastermind with the other authors in this series. They're brilliant. Some of the coaching has been the best I've ever heard or experienced. Join me and ask me about that. I'd love to introduce you to these folks and see if you're interested in being part of that series.

Optimism And Love

This is only going to be a short show. I wanted to toss out a few of the things that are on my heart, things that I love, my favorite things, things that I want to share with you and things that are affiliates. There's another one I have another, Do you want to be a superstar on social media? I have the thing. It's a ridiculously simple, easy and done-for-you thing. It's very inexpensive. If you would love to get better and have your social media uplifted by hundreds of percentages, reach out to me about that as well.

All of this is probably a conversation and I like to chat, no problem having a conversation. I'd love to hear from you. We're all in this world together. There are some folks with agendas out there that are not in our best interests and have been coming for a long time. I'm very aware of all that. I know a lot of people who are resisting it now. I'm outrageously optimistic that our world is getting better in spite of what it seems.

The Charla Anderson Show | Charla’s Chat

Whether it is or it isn't, the people that are sitting in fear, watching the big box on the wall, sitting in fear and fearful of everything, if God is love, he can't be not love. If there's one ounce of fear, it's not from that side, the good side. If you feel fearful, maybe we should talk. I also do some coaching and maybe I can help you out a little bit. One of my sisters was like, “You're Pollyanna. You're always happy.” I'm like, “So? It's better than the alternative, isn't it?” I know some people think it's sugar-sweet or something, but I've been this way my whole life. I'm outrageously optimistic.

If the world ends in two weeks and I've been out here buying candy bars and hugging people, and the world ends anyway, I would rather have been out here spreading joy and love, instead of cowering in front of the black box, getting fearful. That just doesn't work for me. You can be in fear or in action out there loving people. You have to love yourself first though. If you don't know how to do that, let's talk. If you don't know how to reach out, if you don't know how to love yourself, it's time. You are worth it. You are worthy. You are perfect. Literally, you are perfect exactly who and where you are right this second. It's all you have because where we are is all we have. Who you are is perfect right this second no matter where you are. You are loved and perfect. If you want to feel more alive and better or excited, I'm here for you.

Closing Words

This is Charla Anderson Show, collector and connector of fascinating people. Everyone is fascinating. I'm grateful that you would take the time to listen to my ramblings. Maybe that's what they sound like. If that's the case, it's a learning curve too for me. I will bless you. I will ask you to take a look at my website as it's being revamped. If you would like to join my newsletter. I've started an email campaign for the first time in my life. I wouldn't call it a campaign, but it's a soft introduction. Let's stay connected. My website is being updated as we speak because I have Course Platform Academy, Georges, his team, Kim and these amazing folks. Thank you for joining me. It's been some things I've been wanting to get out of my mouth into your ears. Learn that you are worthy. You're perfect. I'm here for you. I always like to end that. With that, remember to always Choose Joy.

Every 4th Wednesday I will be doing a solo show called Charla's Chat.

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I mention some of my Favorite Things that I am an affiliate for:

Course Platform Academy, with Georges Wansek: https://CoursePlatformAcademy.com/CPACharla/

Zurvita, with Zeal, Zundora, Zurge: https://www.Zurvita.com/Charla/

Ziglar Legacy Certified Trainer: https://www.Ziglar.com/?a=85053&c=99

My Books: "Candy Bar Hugs~It Doesn't Take Much to Make a Difference" https://amzn.to/2JSGeUl

“Split-Second Transformation~Change Your Words, Change Your Life: 31 Daily Practices” https://amzn.to/3waHuOn

"A Daily Gift of Hope: A Collection of Stories from Hopeful Hearts Around the Globe" (The Daily Gift Book Series)


"The Change" Book Series with Les Brown Contact Charla@CharlaAnderson.com

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