Eliminate The Need For Control With Lauren Fisher

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Former corporate trainer Lauren Fisher transformed her life, made major moves, and now helps others follow their true paths by learning to release the need for control, go within, and go with the flow as life presents itself.

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Eliminate The Need For Control With Lauren Fisher

Good, beautiful day, beautiful souls. This is Charla Anderson, host of The Charla Anderson Show, collector and connector of fascinating people, and every one is fascinating, especially YOU. I’m thankful that you would join us. I have a wonderful guest. I can’t wait to introduce you to Lauren Fisher. However, I’m going to do a little bit of my breathing exercise to get a centered 22-second mini-vacation. We’re going to take seven seconds of breathing in calm. We’re going to hold for 4 seconds and breathe out 11 seconds of gratitude.

I do this every show. It helps me get centered, and I believe it can’t hurt anybody to be taking some deep breaths and taking a split second away from these devices that we’re all on. Let’s take a deep breath. We’re breathing in calm. Here we go. Hold. Release. Thank you. Thank you for joining me with that. It raises the vibration of our area, which always in my estimation raises the vibration of the world. I’m so incredibly grateful that you would take the time out of your busy day or your busy week and read.

I want to introduce you to Lauren Fisher. We were reviewing. The time we met was the very last week of February 2020. If you recognize that timeframe, it was an interesting time right before the last hurrah or the last event, and we were all gathered in California with Jake Valentine. Lauren Fisher, welcome to my show. Thank you for joining me. Thank you for being my guest and sharing a lot about who you are in this world. We will talk about what you do. Let’s review how we met and where we’re headed with this.

Charla, thank you so much for having me here and inviting me, and all the great Win Win Women and other observers. I’m so grateful and honored. Thank you. We met in Pasadena, California right before the world was shutting down. We didn’t know what was going on. We were hearing all these rumblings and wondering if we were going to get home on airplanes and what was going on. We will talk about this more later but this is another example, and it will all tie in with allowing what comes into your life, paying attention, and going with your intuition because if I didn’t go with my intuition that the event was right for me, I wouldn’t have met you and all the other wonderful people who were there at that event.

Now more than ever, it is so important to be connected with like-minded people in respect of your goals, your dreams, and your values but also people who are doing different things than you so you can stretch, reach, and be inspired. I’m so happy that we met. At the time, I was living in New York State. It was February. I moved to Dallas, Texas, a little less than an hour from you almost a year later. None of this was planned. None of this was on my radar back in February 2020.


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You’ve got a corporate job. You were applying at different places, and you never considered Dallas.

The interesting thing was it was February when we met. I didn’t start applying for jobs until it was about August or September. It was quite a while later. When I went to this personal development seminar with you and all these other fabulous people, I was very inspired. I knew I wanted more. I knew I wanted something different. I knew I wanted to grow. I didn’t know what that looked like, “Where do I start? What do I want? How do I do this?”

To be honest with you, I didn’t realize intrinsically how available that was to me. I thought I had to be lucky. I thought I had to have a college degree because I don’t have one, “How do I compete?” All those self-limiting beliefs would creep in. One of the reasons why I was at that personal development seminar too is to reestablish and soak in my goals, be inspired by other people, connect with myself, bring more self-awareness, and think, “Who am I? What do I want? What do I want for my future?” It doesn’t have to be so rigid and solid but at the time, I was trying to control everything.

That event became holy. The Holy Spirit or something came into that great group that Jake Valentine had brought together. How did you find that group? You were asking me. I had been to an event earlier. The reason it’s important is because we met Shawnte who’s a show host on this platform as well and several amazing human beings. Every one of them were. They were so diverse. We said yes. Intriguing opportunities present themselves. When you say yes, things show up.

It’s amazing who you meet along the way. You meet who you need to meet. A year prior, Jake had the same event in LA, and I went to that. I stumbled across Jake on Facebook and the speakers, authors, and coaches group. At the time, he had about 500 or fewer people in his group. Now, Jake has probably 13,000 or more in his group. Whether it was the 500 or the 13,000, he’s very engaging with his group. That’s important to know. We were very engaged, and I was also involved with the Jack Canfield community, doing the One Day to Greatness and Breakthrough to Success.

I’m a certified Jack Canfield trainer. I’ve done his training programs and masterminds. I was heavily involved. I’ve met so many people through that. I met Jake assembling across the speakers, authors, and coaches. We both attended the weeklong Breakthrough to Success of Jack Canfield. We were able to meet in person. We had known each other for 6 months to 1 year. We met in person.

Naturally, when he had an event, I was going to be there because he was so inspirational. Who you spend time with matters. Like attracts like. Jackie Book, one of my best friends, is in Santa Barbara. I said, “You have to come with me to this event.” Jenna Edwards, who’s co-author of the Women Who Inspire book along with me and several other women, lives out there. I’m like, “You have to come along with me to this event.” I shouldn’t tell people what to do but I knew it would resonate with them too.

I’m still very close friends with Cynthia Wellbrock. I’ve made some lifelong friendships with Tony Whatley, Lisa Whatley, his wife, and so many inspiring people. These are givers. These are people who want to see you win and succeed. We’re not competing with each other. That’s important. In Jake’s first event, I was so lost. Although I was on this personal development journey, and I was already immersed, I was still stuck with a few things in my job and my personal life and relationships.

Fast forward a year, that was dramatically different. I was in an eighteen-year relationship. I was single when I came to his second one. I was a corporate trainer for twelve and a half years or so. I trained over 500 people in this Fortune 500 company, which I’m still with now. I’m in sales now. I was on the road so much. My management had changed. I was on the road three weeks a month straight in hotel rooms. My kids were grown and flown. I was living in New York State and traveling throughout the Northeast, which is beautiful. There were a lot of wonderful people but I was freezing. I was cold. I thought, “I need to go to grow.” I was afraid to make a change.

As things became more uncomfortable for me, and I became more frustrated, I realized it was God saying to me, “You don’t belong here.” It was a confirmation. Sometimes it’s so easy to stay in discomfort because you know what to expect. You might not like it or enjoy it but it’s something you live every day, and you know how to handle it.

I was on the phone with Shawnte, and we were both in a similar spot. We didn’t know where life was going to take us but we knew we wanted more. We knew we wanted to grow. I said, “I’m going to adopt the word allow. Everybody has a word of the year. It is July. I’m going to adopt the word allow.” I was trying to control everything in my life, and I wasn’t allowing God to take control.

You know that country song, Jesus, Take the Wheel. Try to drive while you’re putting on the brakes. That’s what I was doing. What’s interesting is I was limiting myself. What I wanted was this big. What God has for me is this big or greater. I was capping myself too. It’s easy to allow when things are going your way and all these great things are happening but how do you allow when you don’t get the job that you want, when you don’t get the relationship that you want, or when your friends or your family disappoints you? Everything is falling through the cracks.

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Need For Control: It is easy to allow things to happen when everything is going your way. But when things are going against your plans, everything starts to fall through the cracks.


Life happens. Life keeps lifeing. How we react is everything. What I’ve learned, and you’re learning or have learned, is to relax and release it. I call it, “Lay it at His feet and just be.” Where we are is all we got anyway. We don’t have the last second. We only have this second. If we only could realize that we can’t change one thing from the last second, last week, last generation, or last century, we can’t change anything that brought us to this moment in time except the next step or the next word we speak. What if we love that, love where we are, relax, release, and let it go? That gives you the power or the strength of character to take care of whatever else is going on in front of you to be more settled in your decision-making if you’re having to make big decisions.


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What I didn’t realize is as I look back, I was being led for many years. When I listened, paid attention, and went with the flow, things aligned. You learn the lessons. People come in and go out who need to, and it all ties in together. Here I am allowing, and I decide, “I’m keeping myself stuck because I didn’t have a college degree. How can I compete out there?” I’m inspired but then I’m blocking myself at the same time. I’m going back and forth. My dear good friend who’s now passed away and an angel, Teresa Huggins, said, “I grant you a PhD. You have passion, heart, and determination, and that has brought you to where you are. Don’t think that you don’t have something to offer.” I’ve always carried that with me.

That’s an amazing acronym because I believe that a lot of people with degrees don’t use them, and they’re probably in debt. It’s passion, heart, and determination. I don’t have a degree. I was just a flight attendant. That’s what I called myself for a lot of years until somebody slapped me in the face and went, “I don’t want to ever hear you say that again.” I was an amazing award-winning flight attendant. It’s your language and your self-talk.

It’s easy for us to label ourselves with negative labels. We make it difficult to label ourselves with positive labels.

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I was like, “I was just a flight attendant.” I didn’t have a degree. That’s the reason I would say it that way. I didn’t need a degree for that job. I needed heart, passion, and determination for that job.

You have that but we don’t acknowledge our strengths because most of us were brought up or somehow, we created this belief, “That’s ego. That’s bragging.” I had a very wise man say to me, “It’s not bragging if you did it.” I love that.

We have been taught to be self-deprecating, and it’s not self-serving to do that. We think self-care is selfish but selfish is taking care of the self. Self-centeredness is another story. It’s out there. When we can walk in our accomplishments and feel good about ourselves with them, I don’t want to brag. I don’t want arrogance. I want authenticity more than anything. We did do it. We have been there and done that. I earned every one of these silver hairs the hard way.

I said, “What’s the minimum I need? I’m overthinking all of this.” It was my younger son. He was graduating college and heading off to California for his first big job. I traveled so much. I’m in this tiny apartment with no TV, and I have my goal sheets all over the walls, personal, career, and all this stuff. He goes, “When are you going to do something with all this?” I thought, “There’s my son feeding me humble pie.”

That’s from the mouth of babes in a way.

Be careful what you teach your kids. He said, “You’re not happy here. When are you going to move? Why don’t you move?” I said, “If I knew where I wanted to go, I would go.” That’s when I realized I was overthinking it. I thought, “What’s the minimum I need? I need to be warm, and I need to make more money. Everything else is figure-outable. If I don’t like where I land, I can move again.”

I applied within my company to only warm states. I had a great interview in Houston, and I applied to all these other warm states. Dallas calls me, and it’s the recruiter. He can’t offer me a job. He can just pass me through the process. He says, “I heard you applied for a job in Dallas. I’m sorry. There wasn’t one posted or else I would have but I’m open to having a conversation.”

I applied to Houston. He goes, “You didn’t get it. It’s no fault of your own but do you want to talk about this Dallas position later on?” I thought, “That’s a way to let me down gently.” We set a time. I swear I hung up the phone and had this feeling come over me that was like, “If you want this, it’s yours.” I hadn’t even met the manager. I hadn’t gone through interviews but I had to say yes to God. I had to be open and place everything in His hands. He knew what was best for me.

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If I said no, this process is going to be shut down pretty quickly. The process started that night after talking to him. I went to Walmart and bought boxes, packing tape, and bubble wrap. I said, “I’m going somewhere. I’m ready. I’m showing God and the universe.” It was during COVID. Nobody is coming to visit me, and I’m never home anyway. I’m going to start packing everything I don’t use, which is everything except my clothes because I’m not home cooking. I’m not entertaining.

I started packing in August or September. All of a sudden, I started getting sick. I have all these weird symptoms, and now I’m emailing my doctor every day, “This is going on. That’s going on.” I would walk into a grocery store. The smells were so pungent. I knew I didn’t have COVID. I used to be able to listen to loud music in the car. I can’t do that anymore. By 6:00, I’m exhausted and ready to fall on the floor. Normally, I’m up until 1:00 in the morning.

She orders a bunch of blood work, including a Lyme test for Lyme disease. About a week later, I got a call, “You’re positive for Lyme disease.” I’m on the road. My body is tingling everywhere. All these crazy symptoms are going on. I have to drive five hours to Connecticut on a Monday and drive home for five hours. It was brutal. I got called into medication.

Two hours later, I got a text from the manager in Dallas saying, “I would love to interview you. Are you available tomorrow?” I feel like death. It’s going to be a video call. I had to get it together and look presentable. That was an hour-and-a-half call. The moment I spoke to this man, I said, “He’s a leader. I want to work for him. I can learn and grow. I’m open to whatever is available to me.”

I had an interview. Arizona calls me. She’s a great woman and a great leader. I thought, “She’s a great leader. I want to work for her too. What do I do? If I had to choose if I was offered both, what would I do? God, I’m leaving it in Your hands. You choose. You send me where I’m meant to be. That’s where I’ll go.” Everything lined up. I couldn’t plan this. I couldn’t predict it.

During the Lyme disease, I went through, “I’m going to die. I hope I get better.” I have people say, “That’s terrible. You’re going to have this forever.” I said, “That’s not my story. That’s somebody else’s story. My doctor found it immediately. We caught it soon enough.” I had somebody say to me, “This antibiotic is pretty hefty. You’re going to get sicker from the antibiotic or this die-off effect with Lyme disease. You’re going to feel like you’re dying on this.” I said, “That’s not my story because that doesn’t happen to 100% of the people.”

Believe me, I would go back and forth from, “I’m going to die,” to, “There’s no way God put all this in front of me to not have me move forward.” There was a lot of talking to myself and praying, “God, I’m leaving it in Your hands. You know what’s best. You have a plan that’s better than my plan. I’m ready. I want what’s meant for me. If it’s not meant for me, I don’t want it.”

I stick by that with personal relationships, friendships, careers, and everything, “If it’s not meant for me, I don’t want it.” Sometimes we stay in places for too long. I’ve been here for years. I’ve met the most incredible people along the way. It was interesting because right before I moved here, I ended up getting COVID, and I thought, “What in the world’s going on here?”

About two months after being here, working from home, and training because everything was shut down, I couldn’t breathe. I thought, “There’s no way God brought me here to die and not breathe in Texas all alone.” My lungs were sensitive to COVID. I was in brand-new apartment paint. I was inhaling paint 24 hours a day. I was inhaling brand-new carpet, flooring, and all this stuff.

I overcame that. Those were the challenges in getting acclimated to my new position and all that but I had the best bosses. I’ve had the best team. I’ve met the best people and friendships. It was time for me to get back to my personal goals. I was doing personal development training back in the Northeast when I lived there. It was time to get back to that. I created Easy Success Strategies to help teach people how to own their greatness because we forget. You become humble. You want to be humble but sometimes, we make ourselves small in the process. How can I teach people how to own their greatness?

I love doing that. I love being their mirror. They’re the heroes of their stories, “How can I give you hope? How can I inspire you? How can I empower you with what I’ve learned?” Many people, especially women, think, “I don’t deserve a seat at the table.” I didn’t think I deserved a seat at the table. I’m here to give you your ticket for your seat at the table. If you don’t feel like you belong there or want to be there, you can create your own table too. We have that option. There are so many options.



I’ve gotten chills. I call them Godbumps. When we’re talking about God and laying at His feet, this is not a religion. This is a relationship. This is authority. This is our God within. Religion, a lot of times, keeps us very boxed in. This is about relationships, not religion. I tend to try to say that in case people are concerned. I don’t know how I would ever act if I didn’t have that stability in my life of bold faith.

Everybody’s faith is different. We might have different faiths, and we might call God the universe. Whatever resonates with you, know that there’s something greater than you, and you’re always being led. Sometimes we need to listen. It’s like being in a conversation over coffee with a friend. Sometimes we need to listen and hear.


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Often, we’re talking too much. We’re praying, and praying a lot of times is begging. I’m sorry but effective prayer isn’t begging. An effective prayer is, “Jesus, thank You.” Get up and walk. It’s not begging. I was taught differently than that. I’ve got my little crown here because I have chosen to step into the queen instead of the princess. It’s so interesting to me that the people that I’m attracting and that are showing up for my show are all wanting to love people.

I have a saying, “The harder they are to love, the more they need it.” We want to love them, give them grace, and bless them at the very least. A master is one who blesses. We are here to give hope. You’ve gone through some bad stuff. I don’t know anybody who hasn’t. You’re an overcomer. You offer hope. You found a way. You have a success system now that you’re sharing. How do people find you?

I have a website, EasySuccessStrategies.com. You can also email me at Hello@EasySuccessStrategies.com. You can also find me on LinkedIn. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. However, on Instagram, I’m not as active but my son tells me Facebook is for older people. That’s why I’m there. It’s probably true. He’s right a lot of the time. I have two boys.

I’m on Facebook more too. It’s because I don’t want to learn a new thing. We got familiar with that. A lot of us have stuck with that because that’s where the people we have hung out with are. Our high school reunion people are there. It’s a dynamic, and everything is evolving on that line. You have a quote from Wayne Dyer. You’ve got two quotes.

I have a few quotes. One of the quotes from Wayne Dyer is, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change,” which is true. Listen to neuroscientists and the brain. Some people will say, “I’ve always been like this. This is who I am.” That might be true. If you would like more fulfillment, peace, and happiness and be a little more relaxed, you change the way you look at things.

If you live here in the Dallas area, go on 75 any morning. It’s usually traffic jams but I know this. If I hit a traffic jam, I’m prepared. I can catch up on phone calls. I can listen to podcasts and music. There are many times during these traffic times that now I’m smooth sailing. It’s all a gift. I do my best to look at every day with curiosity, look forward to the unfolding, and not have everything so planned and controlled. You need goals and dreams. We have to schedule dinner with friends.

I look forward to the unfolding. It’s like Christmas morning or your birthday, “What’s going to happen to me? What am I going to get? What am I going to give? Who am I going to meet who might need my smile? Who can I be kind to? Who can I do something for? What can I do for somebody else to make somebody else’s day or life better?” We never know what somebody is going through.



You probably have a best friend that you didn’t know was depressed at some time or very sad. You didn’t know the magnitude because they didn’t share it. You never know what anybody is going through inside. How can we be kinder and give people grace? With that, know your values. Know what’s important to you. Sometimes we outgrow people and situations. It’s not good or bad. It’s just not aligned anymore. It’s not aligned with who I am.

We have in the little book, Candy Bar Hugs, unconditional love and unconditional forgiveness, not unconditional boundaries. The harder people are to love, the more they need it. They may need it from a distance but you can always send that love, release it, and lay it down. I got the words, “Don’t strive so hard, just be.” I started doing that several years ago. I’m like, “What does that mean?” It’s a muscle. You can relax and let it be. Let life come at you as you’re talking about. We talked about listening. We talked about prayers. We’re asking, talking, and thanking. Meditation is listening. It takes a moment to be still and know.

Florence Scovel Shinn who is a metaphysicist said, “Prayer is you telephoning to God, and your intuition is God telephoning to you.” I love that. I always listen to my intuition. I might not understand it. Have you ever thought, “I should go here? I’m going to stop off at this store.” Maybe you found a bargain. Maybe you met somebody who needed to see your smile. Who knows? Look at the way you’ve been divinely guided.

I realized I had boundaries in a lot of areas. I didn’t have boundaries with my friends and people close to me because I was attached to my phone all the time. If you called me or texted me, it didn’t matter what I was doing. If it was in my hand, I’m responding to you. I became exhausted. I was so exhausted, and I didn’t know why. I realized, “I’m always on. Tone this down.”

I had long-term friendships and some short-term friendships but in the long-term ones, we were no longer aligned, and I stayed in the friendship out of obligation, “We have been friends for twenty years.” If somebody lies to me, I’m like, “You lied to me. I’m sorry but I can’t be friends with you.” I said that to somebody, “I’m sorry but you were so comfortable to lie to me that I can’t be friends with you anymore.” Maybe that wasn’t the right thing to say or the right way but I wasn’t screaming, yelling, or belittling. I thought, “This isn’t working for me now.”

Good for you because when we give ourselves permission to speak our truth and speak up, maybe nobody had ever told them that to their faces.

I allowed myself to be a doormat, and I won’t do it anymore. I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings.

Avoid conflict for sure.

You hold it all in but then you harbor resentment, contempt, and all these negative feelings. I said, “Once I find peace, I will do anything to protect my peace.” There are so many people in the world. The next time you go to an event, look at all the people in a restaurant. That’s only a small section of people. There are so many people waiting to receive your light and for you to receive their light. Be intentional. Know your values and what’s important to you and then define them to yourself. Be clear about what you want. I did this too. I’m like, “I would like more goal-centered positive friendships.”

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Need For Control: Many people are waiting to receive your light. Be intentional, know your values, and define yourself to be clear about what you want.


I had some great friends, and I still do. They would say, “What are you doing now?” “I’m creating this great program to help empower people.” They would start talking about politics again, not that it’s good or bad but I felt like I couldn’t join in that conversation because that’s not where I’m at. I don’t spend as much time with those people because I needed more people with whom I could talk about my goals and dreams and what’s important to me.

Sure enough, I’m out to dinner with a friend. We coordinated a big dinner and invited all these people. Right there, I met eight new friends. One of whom is one of my best friends, and the other two, I’m very close with. When you want steak for dinner and you want to go to your favorite steakhouse, usually what we do is we don’t eat that much that day because we want to enjoy this steak dinner. You’re starving. You’re on your way to the restaurant. You’re excited. You pass a Chinese food restaurant. You pass an Italian restaurant. You pass a Mexican restaurant. Are you going to stop at any one of those? No, because you’re clear you want steak.

If you start doing that with everything in your life and get clear, it’s not magic. When we talk about the Law of Attraction, things don’t just show up. What’s in your awareness? You start to notice. These are things that were always there. If you were pregnant, the world was pregnant when you were pregnant. If you have a newborn baby in your arms, you see newborn babies everywhere. When you get a new car, whether it’s brand new or new to you, you suddenly see this car everywhere. They didn’t mass produce it. That’s what’s in your awareness. Why not call things into your awareness that you want and desire? Get clear on who you are and what you want.

Here’s the other thing. Dr. Joe Dispenza has a quote. He says it better than I do because it’s his quote, “Are you more invested in your past? Are you more invested in your future? When we’re with friends, how often do we talk about our past?” “Let me tell you about my ex and what he did to me. Let me tell you about that terrible boss.” It brings you back to those negative feelings and negative situations and puts your energy and your vibration in this negative area.

Why not talk about your goals and dreams? When you do that, it raises your vibration. You’re coming from a place of excitement. That’s when you start attracting different situations and different people. Those are some quick small tips. Get clear. Know your values. Have some boundaries. Boundary Boss by Terri Cole is a good book. You can find her on YouTube. I started listening to her, and I was blown away. I thought I had boundaries. I was clearly wrong.

One of my other favorite books is Ivan Misner’s Who’s in Your Room? It talks about people who come into your life. Even if we don’t associate with them, they stay in our lives. How do we mitigate all that? Another book and series is The Go-Giver series by Bob Burg and John David Mann. Here’s the other thing. Ask for what you want. The question never asked is always a no.

I was heading to Florida. I reached out to Bob Burg, one of the authors of The Go-Giver. I said, “I’m going to be near you. I’m wondering if you’re willing to meet up for a cup of coffee or a bite to eat.” We met for breakfast. He said yes, and we had breakfast. If I didn’t ask and said, “He’s never going to say yes. He’s too busy,” how would I ever know? If he did say no for whatever reason, I wasn’t any worse off than I already was. I still wasn’t having breakfast with him. The Go-Giver book and series are great.

We’re on the same path with all of this. Good for you for meeting Bob Burg. I met him years and decades ago. I’ve met a lot of these folks because I show up and go, and I’m not afraid to say, “I’m Charla.” This time goes so fast. This is something I love about Win Win Women. We can have a community and conversations. Any last words, Lauren?

Own your greatness. You are more than you think, and there is more available to you than you think. It’s about peace and fulfillment. What matters to you? If you’re not sure, “I have so many values. Where do I start?” go online and print out a values list. Google a value list, print it out, and circle the ones that mean the most to you. If you’re still confused and don’t know where to start, what areas of your life are you most uncomfortable with? We change when we’re uncomfortable.

We don’t say, “I love my hair. I’m going to cut it all off. I love the paint color in this room. I’m going to change it.” We change when we’re uncomfortable. That’s when we seek something else or something different. Is it finances? Is it your career? Is it friendships? Is it relationships? Is it your inner self? That’s where you can start. Where are you most uncomfortable?



There is a real cheat sheet for finding your values. Look at what we used to call checkbooks and calendars. Look at how you spend your money and where you spend your time. I’ve noticed that there are an awful lot of people for whom entertainment has become their highest value, “What can I play? What can I eat?” All that stuff has become very high value. Be aware of your values. It’s huge. That’s a cheat sheet way to figure that out. It’s where you spend your time and money.

I’m single, and I’m not interested in cooking very much. It doesn’t taste good when I’m done. I do go out to eat with friends a lot, “Let’s go to dinner.” I wish I loved cooking.

You won’t be going to places to eat with people you are not aligned with, at least not often. To me, that’s a win-win. If you’ve got the means to do that, by all means, do it. To me, it’s a win-win on that.

Start small. I know we talk about SMART goals and big and audacious goals but let’s start small and celebrate our accomplishments.

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That’s a biggie right there. Acknowledge and celebrate something because we’re always onto the next thing. I’m like, “I’ve finished my book. Now what am I going to do? I got this and this.” Jim Rohn is always like, “Capture that moment and celebrate it.” I’m talking to me here when I say that.

You said something earlier that I love. I forced myself to do this every now and again. You can just be. Sometimes I’m like, “I just need to be. I don’t need to do anything. I don’t need to think about anything. Maybe I need to go to bed early. I need to be, absorb, and be here. I don’t need to do anything. I don’t need to make a decision.”

When you release it, it allows things to come to you. A lot of times, you are like, “I want to live in this place or better.” I have a vision of where I’m going to live, and I will always end by saying, “Thank you for this place that’s on its way or something better.” We know that it’s coming. We are going to go ahead and close it out. I want you to know that you’re beautiful, who and where you are. No matter who you are or where you are, you are loved, and you cannot do anything to be loved more or less by God and me. Take that and receive it.

As we close out, thank you so much for joining me, Lauren. I’m grateful. Before you even moved here, we still haven’t gotten together but that’s imminent. We are going to have to make it work. I love your enthusiasm. I love that you’ve transitioned, and we’re very similar in mindset. Mindset is what we’re talking about here. Thank you for joining me. Anyone who takes the time to read this, thank you. My name means joy in Greek. I am going to always end by saying, “Choose joy.”


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TCAS 33 | Need For ControlLauren Fisher, co-author of the Amazon Best Seller, Women Who Inspire, uprooted and transformed her life as she knew it by moving to Dallas, Texas in January 2021 from New York, just five months after she began Allowing herself to be guided for her greater good. With over 25 years as a corporate trainer and a true lover of all people, her latest endeavor, Easy Success Strategies, focuses on providing others with the tools to live a truly peaceful and fulfilling life.

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