Turn Your Pain Into Power: Heal, Rise & Become Who You Are 

Turn Your Pain Into Power: Heal, Rise & Become Who You Are

About Rondregus Underwood

Pain doesn’t get the final say. PURPOSE does. Rondregus “Mr. U” Underwood shares how he transformed adversity into his true calling. A former foster youth turned empowerment speaker and advocate, he opens up about healing, identity, leadership, and choosing purpose over pain. This inspiring conversation dives into breaking cycles and boldly stepping into who you were created to be.

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Introduction

Good, beautiful day, beautiful, beautiful souls! This is Charla Anderson, host of the Charla Anderson Show~Collector & Connector of Fascinating People (& EVERYONE is Fascinating!), especially you.

Overcoming was never about providing anything to anyone. It was about surviving what should have broken my guest today and choosing purpose anyway. Rondregus Underwood, IAmMrU.com, broken foster kid, finally stopped asking why all the bad stuff happened to him and started asking who he was becoming because of it. And in that shift, pain turned into purpose. He says, I don’t hide my past. I honor it because it reminds me that perseverance, not perfection, is what builds legacy. What tried to limit me refined me. I am not what I came from. I am who I chose to become. This is one overcomer extraordinaire. And I might add debonair. 

…BUT FIRST…

We’re going to do our 22-second mini vacation, that little breathing exercise to get us centered and calm. We’re going to breathe in calm for seven seconds, hold for four seconds, and breathe out gratitude for 11 seconds. So here we go. Let’s breathe in some I am calm. Hold. Relax. Release. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. 

I am really beyond honored to get to have this conversation with you, Rondregus. I know we met with Stacey Wright, one of the most extraordinary people we both know.

She’s got the heart profit. An amazing business that brings heart back to the business world and serves people, not corporations. And make a profit. Yeah. So that’s where we met. And she’s doing extraordinary things. And Rondregus, R-O-N-D-R-E-G-U-S, Underwood. And I always like to spell because most people are listening and not watching. 

I was on the board of Heart Profit. And so, Rondregus, thank you, thank you, thank you for joining me today, having this conversation. I know that you are up to some extraordinary things. And because you’re like a stylist, you know, I think it’s fun to pull all those pieces together and find out how you overcame that really traumatic childhood. And we all got a story and I want to know yours. But first, I want to have you tell us, who are you in this world? What is your purpose? What are you doing here?

First and foremost, Ms. Charla, I want to thank you for this opportunity to be on this platform. It was a pleasure meeting you at the Heart Property event on last year, closing out on such a phenomenal year. and meeting you through one of the most phenomenal people that I know, Stacey Wright. So this is definitely a pleasure and a privilege, and I thank you so much for this opportunity. A little bit about myself, you guys. I am nothing more than a vessel, right? I’ve found my purpose by the grace of God and just allowing him to operate through me and realizing that everything that he took me through was to get me here and to be a blessing of impact to somebody else. 

That’s in short of who I am. And I do so many things, right? So you guys buckle your seatbelt and get ready for this. I’m an entrepreneur. I’m a full-time entrepreneur. Like Charla said, I am on the board of Heart Profit as the event lead and the event host. So every month, we produced this networking event that I put together as far as finding the locations, finding the speakers and finding the food sponsors. Outside of that, I do do that. I do events outside of Heart Profit where I put together resourceful events for kids in the foster care community. I do a lot of public speaking. 

I do photography. I’m an event host. I host a lot of other networking events around town for other clients. I’m a published author. We’ll talk about that a little bit more later. So yeah, I’m really just a full-time entrepreneur out here doing my thing. just being a resource wherever I can, but at the same time, focusing and operating as much in my purpose and in my lane as possible. So God has blessed me with many gifts and many abilities to operate in so many different capacities, but anywhere that I can be an impact, Ms. Charla, that’s really where my focus is and aligning with whatever, aligning with those things that we talked about earlier as far as the foster care, anything they got to do with adoption or helping others arrive with their purpose in life. So, yeah.

Yeah. And how you’re like a juggler, juggling a lot of things. And, you know, that’s a lot, I know doing events is intense.

Pressure cooker a lot of times.

A lot of leadership, a lot of leadership skills. And I’ve grown in many different capacities over the years, like from producing fashion shows, which I do have a fashion show that I’m working on right now that I’m in the midst of producing the actual fashion show, which is on April 19th here in the Dallas area. But it takes a lot of strategic planning, right? I think after doing it for so long, you kind of like pretty much have your checklist of things that you just kind of like get in a rhythm of doing. with every event, but for the most part, most events are just different concepts, right? But there’s a lot of times it’s the same different things that you put in order for them to be a success. But I think after doing it for so long, I mean, it’s like second nature with anything else.

Yeah, and they very rarely are 100% successful, conflict-free or issued, you know.

And it’s like, it’s crazy. Like, you know, that like every event you is going to be a conflict. And I think, as you said, just being proactive and knowing that it’s going to be a conflict. So it’s about, you know, how resourceful you are and how flexible.

And yeah, you just I mean, I was a flight attendant for 34 years. You know, you’ve got to go with the flow. You’ve got to make you know, they only think constant is change. Right.

That’s true. How well you how well you are able to bounce back. Right. Whatever whatever problem happens. Whatever setback that comes or presents itself, just being able to recover and still show up and still have a successful event. Because I’m going to tell you something. One thing that I learned with doing a lot of events is a lot of times your audience, they don’t know when there is a mess up until you stop, right? But if you don’t stop, they don’t know what your program is. They don’t know what your presentation is. So keep going, you know, and learn how to pivot, right? Learn how to pivot well. and learn how to like smooth it out. But a lot of times they don’t know when something is messed up. So you just got to keep it. And

They shouldn’t really, if you can keep it from being, I mean, there’s some things, you know, electricity going out or something, you know, there’s some things that are very obvious.

But other than that, I mean, you know, I’ve done a lot of events. I’ve seen a lot of things go wrong. And at the same time, you know, I’ve built a brand and a lot of people know me for, mostly continue to, you know, have successful events. So, you know, and I love it that way. Like building the supporters, building my audience, building my market, you’re known for, you know, mostly known for successful events, right?

Yeah, well, you wouldn’t be doing it if you weren’t. Exactly. Anyway, listen, I know what we hear to talk about is, you know, you weren’t raised in a very happy place. And there’s somewhere along the line, something is pivoted in your life, some something shifted, you change and chose, it is always a choice to choose whether to live in that the victim or the victor. So, you know, you were raised in the foster system and we all have heard so many horror stories around all that and you lived one. So is that something you want to share here?

Yes ma’am. It is something I want to share.

Because you’re an advocate for foster kids now.

I’ve stepped into this role of total transparency and authenticity, right, with my story. And you know, and like I tell people all the time, it’s not to point fingers or it’s not to blame anybody that’s working in the system because, um, it’s not, it’s not everyone, right. It’s not everyone that’s quote unquote, a bad foster parent. Right. When I first went into the system, my first ever foster parent, I would never forget them. Like that was when I was like seven, eight years old. And here I am 40 years old now. And I still remember my first ever foster family. And they were amazing. 

They were amazing from their house. They had livestock in their backyard. They had this big lake in the front yard. And they were a Caucasian family, right? And they loved us in a way that we just weren’t used to seeing. Like coming from Like what we were coming from, like, you know, we were in the projects, right? Living in, you know, Section 8, really hard side of town to be taken to their home and seeing so much order and structure and seeing these animals that I’ve never seen in my life. And it was amazing. And even their kids came home from college to even visit us, right? And this family, like they the way they came in our rooms and woke us up in the morning was just it was it was just so much love and care. 

Right. And I’ll never forget that. I’ll never forget that. But there were times when we were where we were placed in homes that were. weren’t that we’re not you know so uh caring like that right you so i kind of like experience both sides of the spectrum but um i think that’s what makes me an advocate it’s not uh advocating for the negative part of it but also uh telling the good side of it as well but at the same time being able to bridge these gaps and be a voice for these kids that are going through the system now. And also other foster parents and other people that’s working in the system, being able to be a voice that has lived the experience to help them build the gaps and build resources of insight to be more of a helpful attribute to these kids that are still in the system.

Yeah, and I know you aged out, and that’s a really hard thing. I don’t know what that… I’m sure you know what the percentage that they say out there that is…

At 18, all of a sudden, you’re kicked out without any. Unless your foster families have guided you, you have nothing. Is that correct?

It’s actually… It’s a lot more scarier than people probably can actually fathom in their mind. Because I think most people, they probably have that family support when they’re, you know, graduating high school, transitioning into college or whatever, the military or whatever career choice they’re going into. So it’s a little bit more of a safety net there for kids that are privileged to have that. But on the other hand, it’s some kids that don’t, right? And I happen to be one of those kids that didn’t have that safety net with aging out of foster care after being in a children’s home called Brentwood Children’s Home. 

That children’s home is still in Montgomery, Alabama today. A lot of the caseworkers that work there are still there, working still at that children’s home, Brentwood Children’s Home. You guys can look them up. They have a lot of sponsors that allows that place to function, right? That provides all of the holidays and the kids Christmas clothes and supplies and birthdays and a lot of stuff that goes on within that children’s home. 

They’re amazing. But with aging out of care, yeah, it’s one of the scariest things that a child can experience when those resources and those certain personnel are not in place to help them transition until adulthood, man, because at that point, you’re on your own trying to figure out life, right? And so I don’t know if it was a lot of people like myself back then when I was aging out, but I didn’t really know too many of them. And that’s what encourages me to do what I do now because I wish I had a voice or somebody to help me transition into that next phase of life because it is hard going into the world without much guidance or much know-how on how to figure things out. So, yeah.

A huge percentage don’t do well.

Man, I just feel so, you know, just, I know the systems in our, so many of our systems are just flat out broken and, and so many people are falling through cracks that I’m, I’m so grateful that there are advocates. That’s what you are, an advocate and, and you, what’s, what’s the name of the book you held up earlier? You’ve got

a book that

Innocence Taken, that’s

it, right? And it was co-authored because it was my first rodeo as an author, my first break into authorship, where I am working on my next book. But that book is called Innocence Taken. And it’s basically my introduction of how I got into the foster care system. Right. Because a lot of people wanted to know, like, Mr. You, how did how did that happen to you? Like, you know. I guess from the average person, they can’t understand, like, how would a child end up in a system like that? Right. So with this book, I talk. That’s what I talked about. I talked about the things, some of the things that my parents went through or some of the things that I was exposed to as a child that led up to me. being taken out of the home with my mom and going into the foster care system.

So you’re up till seven or so years old, you were in an abusive situation and there’s,

you know, more than

that than we would like to think. And the child doesn’t know. I mean, often I think they kind of think it’s all they know. It’s their

life,

right?

Exactly.

And it didn’t. I

mean, that’s that’s incredible that you say that, Miss Charla, because that’s what it was until being taken out of the home. My parents, I didn’t know my parents were struggling. You know what I mean? Like, I thought that was, you know.

That’s normal. I mean, that’s your life.

You don’t have a

perspective that until you went into that other home that somebody actually lives in a decent, calm, basically, arena,

right? I mean, it was like night and day. It was like totally different lifestyle. And it was so crazy because I can remember even more like when I talk about it, it’s like God has blessed me with this amazing memory to just be able to envision these things. And I remember like every morning was so excited to wake up because being in that new space and it was so it was somebody was so organized and everything was just so clean and it’s crazy. And the people were just so nice. that it was so exciting to even just wake up in the morning and do life, right? Seeing that newness, right? So the

contrast is going from really hard times and darkness and dirt and disorganization and chaos, right? And I’m hoping that the foster system does address, you know, that really ups up levels a lot of that for the kids. Right.

But it had to have been

traumatic.

It’s not every foster home. It’s not every foster parent.

I’m going to tell you a story real quick. There was a… And I think you’ll relate to this. I was on my last retirement trip of my entire 34 career with Delta Airlines. 34 years. I was laying over in… my last layover was in Amsterdam and I got to, my son went with me and we went to see Miep Gies. She’s the most famous people person nobody has ever heard of, but she’s the lady who hid Anne Frank. Right. So Miep Gies and the man who created the Anne Frank Foundation. I got to be in her home when she was 99 years old and have

a

relationship. I’d met her a few times. But Cornelius Suijk, S-U-I-J-K or something, he’s the one that Otto Frank gave the missing pages of the diary to, the eight pages or something that were missing to this man. And he told me the story of the number one word that keeps prejudice alive. There’s one word. It’s a three-letter word in English. The, the.

The

T H E it’s T in Dutch, but T H E. So we want to, we, I think this is important to get out there and I put it in my book. When I talked about it in one of my split second transformation book, the, the, in that context, the Jews, the blacks, the teenagers, the, you know, sometimes I go, the lawyers. And I go, well, that one’s kind of true. Get a little joke in there. But you stop to think about that. Before, all these people were neighbors in Germany and all this stuff. They were all cohabiting. Everybody’s happy, getting along. And all of a sudden, this propaganda comes out and says, well, the Jews, right? 

Right. So all of a sudden, we’ve grouped individuals into a common, what’s the word I want to use? Just, you know, common ground, like a cult or, you know, just whatever. And they took all the individual out, all their neighbors that they used to, you know, have coffee with or whatever, shop in their shops. We’re, you know, Jews or teenagers or, you know, whatever the word might be, the group might be.

I don’t know why that came to mind. I think it’s something to consider because we do tend to group people

without

the individual. And there’s not one group that there’s not, good and bad and right and wrong. And, you know,

there’s not

a group out there that doesn’t have both.

Absolutely. That brings to mind when, like, going through the system that I went through, it taught me so much compassion and empathy, right? But at the same time, even though, like, I’m a person of empathy and I’m an empath, I’ve met a lot of narcissists, right? And they’re like the opposite, right? And, you know, I don’t think if it, I think if it wasn’t for what I went through, there’s a lot of things that I wouldn’t have had the opportunity or the mindset to learn because of what I went through, right? 

And I think that right there sets the foundation for a lot of choices and things that I do or I intend to engage in. because of what I went through as a child, right, is allowing me to have patience and more understanding and empathy for people who suffer on a scale that a lot of, where a lot of people may not have the understanding or the patience to hear or see people in that capacity, right? And it goes so much further than just foster care, right? From being in the foster care, Yes, but because I’ve been in the foster care, I’ve adopted this mindset and this way of, wait, what’s she calling me? Hello?

I got a power surge. It kicked me out, so I’m trying to get back in.

Okay, that’s why I was like, okay, she’s calling me. But I’m still on here. This meeting is being recorded. I’m still on. So I guess I’ll just keep talking.

your co-hosts okay what else I heard was um it was like an opportunity for and then and then I the the lights and what they didn’t go off but it blips and

okay because I saw your screen freeze and I was like okay well let me try to

yeah

keep talking but yeah so yeah

some hopefully some of this will get um edited out you know but I’m gonna see if I can figure out how to get back in

well that’s what I was gonna ask you what are you gonna try to

Yeah, so you can, if you want to wait or you can, oh, where did I,

okay.

Okay. Yeah, just hold on and we’ll, let me get back in.

Okay, great. Wow. Well, at least you said it is a possibility that it will happen. So.

I say that every week. So it hasn’t, I mean, a lot of times it just happened that one time, but my electricity actually went out that time. So, but I got it back on in five minutes. Let’s see. That’s so interesting.

Yeah. Do you know what possibly causes it? Or is it something

that… Rarely, rarely does my neighborhood have that. So that’s a good thing. We didn’t lose it this ice storm, although we did the last one. Let’s see. Okay. Hey, look, if you still going on, can you look in and you might just pause, you know how to pause the recording. So you can just have the top right or has a little recording if you can just pause that. Just one.

Okay, I see.

Someone is stopped. So pause. Or I can just say, you know, we’ve had a blip in the electricity. So we’re taking a little fun break here. But we’re back. We’re back. So

we’re going to

talk more. You’re going to be talking now more about the compassion and empathy that you have gained through the system. And some

people take

it. Can I just say this? I think some people take it one or the other. They’re going to go be victims or they’re going to be victors. They’re going to go… you know, take and find what’s wrong or find what’s right. So I am so glad you found what’s right.

And I totally agree. I think it’s all about perspective. Right.

But how I made it out was making a choice. Right. To look at that as a. platform for me to use to inspire somebody else. Instead of using it as a crutch, maybe it was God setting me up for success. Maybe it was God allowing that to happen for me and not to me, right? So that shifts the mindset and allowing kids to look at it like, hey, look, I can use this as a platform to build my story to impact the youth that’s coming before me. I mean, becoming or coming after me, right? So a lot of it is perspective, right? And at this point of my career, in my life, 

I’m not even going to say my career, in my life, I’ve learned to be grateful for going through that system. Because from what I understand now, it was literally God helping me when I didn’t even know I needed help. Or it was God like, Really stepping in and providing us a safe haven when we didn’t even know that’s what we needed as a kid. Like I didn’t know my parents were struggling as much as they were. And the things that the different addictions and things that they have that was like setting them back that was affecting us. So I thank God for taking me through that system. Because it has allowed me to become the person that I am today with being able to see things with compassion and see things from an empathy standpoint. So, yeah, if it weren’t for that, I don’t know where I would be.

So it draws to mind. I mean, did you was it an evolution through that or was it a moment that you’re like, you know what, I have a choice?

Yeah. I mean, I definitely say it was an evolution. It was evolution over time still, because like I tell people and I even write in my book, I ran from it for a long time. Right. I ran from it for a long time because I was just ashamed of it. Even while I was in it, a lot of my peers and kids who I thought were my friends that I was trying to fit in and be cool with. a lot of them gave us a hard time with being set apart and with being different from what they understood of what a normal kid was. Right. And so as like, after aging out, 

Ms. Charla, I ran from it. I was so ashamed of it. I didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t want to, I didn’t want to live it, you know, so anymore, you know, so I went into my career of the fashion industry and being a model, um, and didn’t talk about it. I didn’t, I mean, it was crazy because when I finally started to talk about it, it was so many people who I had to work with, like celebrities and influencers and models and designers. It was like, Mr. E, we never knew that because I didn’t talk about it. And the way I present myself, the way I dress and the way I keep myself groomed and everything, you wouldn’t think that I went through something like that. 

But I mean, that right there is a lesson in its own. You can’t judge a book by its cover, right? There has been other times in my life where I really needed help, Ms. Charla, and people would turn or they wouldn’t believe me. Because of the way that I always presented myself, like the way I present myself. Miss Charla, you’ve seen me in person and I don’t know. That’s a gift from God. The way I can still get up no matter what I’m going through to still get up and present myself and dress myself. I’ve always been like that, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t go through things in life where I need help. So it’s a lot of things I’ve learned over the years from being in the foster care system and just being a person that’s able to like turn and live in my authenticity, right? Of what I’ve been through and, you know, showing that vulnerability with telling my story, right? 

It’s taught me so much. And just hearing other people’s story too, Ms. Charla, it has been an amazing journey and the evolution, right? of God coming to me and speaking to me and telling me that it’s time that I started to live in my truth. It has been an amazing journey and an amazing evolution of watching this door open and seeing all of these new things that God has in alignment for my life, right? And with me accepting this duty and this challenge of doing this work, he has opened some amazing doors. I’ve been on some amazing stages talking to hundreds of people, like a lot of people telling my story and seeing them, seeing tears run from their face. 

And, you know, it’s incredible and it’s something that I never take for granted, right? And the most amazing part about this whole revolution is as a kid, I used to be so introverted, Ms. Charla. Like, I wasn’t the person of many words. And to look back at a lot of these videos or speeches I’ve done and stages I’ve had the opportunity to grace is incredible to see the miracle that God is able to do through anybody. When you have a calling on your life or you’re destined to fulfill a purpose, God is able to, to turn whatever situation around so that he gets the glory. I’ve literally seen it with my own essence, my own being. I’ve seen the miracles God is able to

do. You have some quotes and, you know, I love them. I don’t just overcome adversity. I turn it into access for others. Would you speak that out loud and actually just make it into a little paragraph here? 

I really don’t. I don’t just overcome adversity. I turn it into… I literally turn it into access for others, for them to be able to see someone who was literally facing many different odds and still to overcome and to become something in life. I think that’s the greatest, one of the greatest gifts you can give anybody to let them know that their life still has purpose, right? You’re going to, it doesn’t mean that I’m not going to go through more challenges. 

It doesn’t mean that I’m not going to go through, have to overcome more odds, but the being able to be that mirror for somebody else, that literally saves people’s life. Because sometimes, you know, some challenges can be harder than others. And some people may feel like they want to give up. But when they can see you striving and continue to fight and beat the odds, it does something to their heart, right? It does something to their being that makes them want to get up and fight as well. So for me to be able to be that vessel, Ms. Charla, I’m so grateful, man. 

I just… Like I said, I’m 40 years old, right? It was at one point I didn’t even think I lived to see this age. I got friends that I grew up with in Alabama. They didn’t make it. They didn’t make it to see this age. So, of course, I don’t just overcome adversity. I’m a living testimony that your life still has purpose and you still can wake up tomorrow Or you can lay down and take a nap right now and wake up on the other side of that nap and decide, you know what? I’m going to turn my life around. I’m going to live intentionally and on purpose.

Wow. So exactly. Every split. So my book, Split Second Transformation, Change Your Words, Change Your Life, 31

Daily

Practices, you can change in a split second. It is all your choice. I don’t care where your circumstances are. I was in a class this morning and they’re talking about James 1, you know, and count it all as joy. Yeah. And then you have a reward that you will have it all, you know, basically. And when she said, you know, when this one of my coaches, Brenda Breyers, but she said, you know, when you get an adversity or something happens, stop right then and say, thank you for this gift. What will I learn here? And thank you for everything. working through it. My, my prayer is always

thank

you. Thank you. Thank you. Not begging, you know, anyway, um, another quote you have, and let’s just cap encapsulate this one. I am proof that where you come from never outranks who you become. Let’s

say that and

put it in a, in

a context. That is actually one of my favorite because like I told you earlier, say

it, say it. And so we can have it from your lips and then we’ll, uh,

I tell a lot of caseworkers that now sometimes we have to take those kids out of their environment that they’re in and take them to visit or on a field trip to a new environment. And it’s just amazing to see what it does to their mindset, right? And it just goes to show you like, no, you do not have to be what your circumstances say you should be. You have a choice to rise above it and become greater, right? But it all starts with mindset, right? And a lot of times that mindset can be shifted when you can show that subject or that person like, look, this is what it looks like on the other side of that track. if you have the desire to go across unfamiliar territory.

You’ve, you know, it’s always fun. I mean, my whole show is about telling people, offering hope and having, you know, telling their stories of overcoming. And that’s why, you know, that’s, I just love it. I’ve just, it’s precious to see that so many of us There’s nobody that doesn’t have a story of overcoming. Some of them are more compelling, right, than others, but as far as the big picture, but we all got them.

And

it’s so fun when there’s that rags to riches or abuse to where you’ve become a success here. Basically, I think you would be considered successful by most standards.

I think so. And

I mean, you dress like a rock star or whatever, you know, you know, you’ve got such a fun jive about you or whatever that word might

be. It’s the energy, right? It’s the energy that I choose to operate in. Right.

And it is

a

choice.

Yeah. There you go. That’s what we’re

talking about.

Yeah. I don’t have much light on this video because of, you know, I guess I’m facing the wrong way. But I chose to live in the light. Right. I chose to be on the good side. Right. I choose to believe in Jesus Christ. I choose to use my story to I choose to use it for good. Right. And it’s a choice. It’s a choice that you make. And I choose to look at it from that perspective. Like, hey, I went through I went through I went through what I went through. Not for me. 

Right. I went through it for somebody else. Right. And I think a lot of people, once they learn to understand that a lot of things that they go through in life is it’s not God punishing you. I used to think that I used to think that it was God punishing me for something that I did that I didn’t even know that I did wrong. Like, why? Why? Why? Why? Why did he take me from my parents? Why me? Why me? And then it’s like, why not you? I mean,

really? That’s the

old question. Why me up? to because he knew that I would have to do this podcast one day he knew that it was going to be somebody to see this we might not know who it was going to be yet but I’ve literally done podcasts in the past and they podcast would do high ratings more than any of the other interviews but God knew that that was going to happen he knew that was going to happen before I was even born but the story had to be I had to go through it you know You have to go through it. But going through it is what makes us sharper. Exactly. Say that

last sentence.

It is what makes us better. Going through it is what makes us better. If you just don’t give up and you go through it. I’m going to tell you something, Ms. Charla, that is so profound to me about going through it. It’s something that I didn’t realize as a kid when I was actually going through the fire. I didn’t realize that God will get in the fire with you. He’ll get in that thing with you and go through it with you to make sure you’re covered and protected, to make sure that he gets the glory, right? So a lot of these kids, a lot of these people that are going through something, you think you’re alone, you’re not. You’re not alone. You just have to change your perspective and realize that God is within you. You have that power to overcome any situation.

I love that

you

just brought that up because he’s not out there. He’s inside of you. And when you say I am, You’re speaking God’s name in you. And

you should never say anything. I am Mr. You. There you go. The

breath of life is God in you. And if you start saying, changing, I am. sick and tired, or I am, I hate this job, you know, whatever it is, you change those languages. Every word matters. Every word matters.

Change your

language and you will shift your direction. So you wrote here too, the real work isn’t becoming someone new. It’s remembering. Okay. So wait, let me finish. I want you, I’m going to

finish it. Then I want you to

repeat it because I want to get it in a, in a nutshell. The real work isn’t becoming someone new. It’s remembering who you are or were created to be.

All along.

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. So say that in one sentence and let’s capture it.

Yeah, that’s definitely one of my favorite ones. Look, your purpose is not to become this person. other being is not to become something that a lot of times it’s crazy how we just compare ourselves, but that’s not your, that’s not what you, that’s not your purpose. Your purpose is not to become something else is to become the individual that only you were destined to be only you, right? Your goal is to become the better you. It’s not to become somebody else. It’s not to become that celebrity that you like. It’s not to become or to be your next door neighbor who house is probably bigger than… It’s not… That’s not your goal. That’s not your objective to become in life. Your goal is to become who you are always destined to be. And no matter what hardships, no matter what tough times come your way, all of those things are… put in place to sharpen you, to make you better for who you are supposed to be, right? 

Everybody has, like Ms. Charla said earlier, everybody has their challenges. Everybody has their hardships. Everybody has their own test, right? But you need to keep your eyes on your own paper because your test, your sequence of questions are… They’re not like the person that’s next to you. They could be going through a whole different test. You never know. They could be in a whole different chapter that you probably haven’t even got to yet. Right? So you need to be focusing on becoming the best you. Right? I love that quote. It just threw me back hearing you read that because it’s so powerful. You

wrote it though, right? It’s your quote.

Yes, ma’am.

Okay,

that’s beautiful. I’m so proud to hear somebody else say it too.

The real

work isn’t

becoming someone new. The real work isn’t becoming someone new. It’s remembering who you are always created to be. That is stunning and beautiful. And I’m so grateful. IAmMrU.com IAmMrU.com is how we find Rondregus R-O-N-D-R-E-G-U-S Underwood And, you know, we’ve got last word. I mean, we’ve had interruptions. We’ve had all kinds of little things. And the time goes so fast

anyway.

But thank you for being with me today. And I want to hear your last words of encouragement.

My last words of encouragement is. I know I sent there something else, but I don’t know. God just put something else on my spirit. My last words are just, you guys just learn to stay the course, right? I think, oh, I know it’s so easy for us to get sidetracked, right? We want to be accepted. We want to have friends. We want… you know, sometimes things to go the way that we predict or the way that we see them going. And that’s not always the way life is going to be. Like life is going to throw us curve balls. Life is going to sometimes go against our own expectations. But I know for a fact God is doing a new thing. He’s doing a new thing. And that new thing might be unfamiliar to from what you may used to be, from what you’re used to seeing, right? 

But you have to trust and know that God favors you and he has plans to prosper you, right? So stay the course and trust that you’re a winner and you’re a survivor. You’re not a victim, you’re a winner, right? And that’s my closing words. Stay the course. You guys understand that God is doing a new thing in this season. And there’s a lot of unfamiliarity. There’s a lot of things that are going on right now that may be unfamiliar or going against what you expected. But he’s still in the miracle making business for sure.

I love it. Yes, yes, yes. And one of the things I say all the time, even when it doesn’t feel like it, everything is always working out for me. I mean, everything’s always working out for me because where else do I have to be than where I am right now?

Absolutely. And we’re the only place we can.

Yeah, it’s the only place we have to be in this second in time. And so you might as well take a deep breath. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. How am I going to get, how do I take the next step and keep moving?

So,

Rondregus, thank you so much for being with me today. And I’m going, we’ve got to go. So, I look forward to catching up with you again soon. And always, always, always remember, choose joy.

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