If we can choose to be happy, our lives will be more meaningful and the world will become a much better place. Charla Anderson shares three simple ways to live in your happy place all the time.
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Staying In Your Happy Place
Good, beautiful day, you beautiful souls. This is Charla Anderson, host of The Charla Anderson Show, collector and connector of fascinating people, and every one is fascinating, especially YOU! I am so grateful you’re joining me. I am going to help you get your happy back. Be happy. Stay happy. We’re going to do it. We’re going to talk about how to do that and how fun it can be to do that. I’ll provide many tips and tricks for doing that.
First, we’re going to take our little mini vacation, our little 22-second breathing exercise to get centered, get grounded, and listen to our bodies, souls, and spirits. Here we go. We’re going to breathe in some calm for 7 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, and then breathe out some gratitude for 11 seconds. Join me. Here we go. Breathe in calm, hold, and release. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It’s time to do that much more often than most of us probably do it. I want to give you that little mini vacation, that little moment to be still and know and listen to your still, small voice.
In this episode, we’re going to be talking about getting your happy back and keeping it. We’re here every Wednesday every week live at 1:00 PM on WinWinWomen.tv and streaming services everywhere. Thank you for participating and joining me as we’re still learning the ropes around here. How can we get and stay happy? That’s what I’m going to talk about here. Every fourth Wednesday, I do my solo show. This is it.
I did this little talk for a little group. It’s called Network for Enterprising Women, a small group in Fort Worth that I was involved with years ago. It was a fun time. They invited me to come and share my little optimism, which is what they wanted. It was fun, and I did. I made a little outline. This could perhaps be some little evergreen course I can offer a little bit down the road, but I’m going to call it now How to Keep Your Happy Happy: Three Plus Ways to Live in Your Happy Place All the Time.
Where You Are Is All You Have
The first point we’re going to talk about is where you are is all you have. You know that. We’ve been told to live in the present. We’ve heard it all our lives, but do we know what that really means? I don’t think it ever took hold in me until a few years ago and I started realizing that where I am is all I have. Where I am right this second is the only place that I have. I can’t be last second, last week, or next year. I can only be here in this moment and in this time.
You might as well love where you are. You may not love what’s going on, but if you love where you are right this moment in time because it’s the only place you have to be no matter what the circumstances, perhaps you will learn to come from a place that’s more centered and calm. If you get upset in a moment or your circumstances are bad, what are we going to do about it? If we’re upset, we can not deal with the circumstances at hand quite so easily. Where you are is all you have. You might as well love it. You can then be proactive in taking a stance on what’s next and how you can handle the circumstances you are in a lot better.
Since the beginning of time, since let there be light, since billions and billions of people who have come and will come, we’re a speck of time at this point of eternity. Why would we want to choose to live in upset? Upset always draws more upset. Why would we want to choose to get upset over silly things? Most of them are pretty silly. It may be that somebody cut you off or you got the wrong package. I don’t know. What if we stand back and go, “What am I learning from this? What do I get to learn from this moment?” Start acting as if it’s an experiment. We’re all driving through this life.
Many people are living in this fear, this upset, or this confusion when we choose to be still and know and listen to our hearts, our spirits, and our gut instincts. I promise you. You’ll start having better moments. You’ll start realizing that the things we get upset about are so often trivial. Even when they’re not, we still only have this moment to address them. What else do you have other than right now?
It’s a choice. We get to choose how we behave at any given moment. We can’t change the last second. We can’t change the last minute. We can’t change the last generation. We can’t change one single thing from that direction. We can only make a choice to change the next step. If we don’t like where we are, we get to choose in this moment to maybe take a different direction, make a different choice, or maybe speak a better word.
Split-Second Transformation Change Your Words, Change Your Life: 31 Daily Practices is my small book with daily reminders of how to start changing your words to speak what you want, not what you don’t want. Those are pretty powerful concepts I’d love for you to consider and continue to consider because everything is a choice. You get to choose right this second whether you want to be upset or happy.
Everything is a choice. You get to choose right this second whether you want to be upset or happy. Share on XMy granddaughter, I’m giving her little affirmations like, “I am happy.” She always says, “I am happy.” I love that. I’m teaching her, “I am smart. I have a good mind. I can think ahead. I have critical thinking skills.” I haven’t taught her that yet, but I will. I want you to understand that where you are is all you have this split second.
Every single solitary thing since the beginning of time has conspired to have you tuning in to this right this split second in time. Anything could have happened yesterday or your grandparents not meeting. Everything has conspired to have you in this moment at this time, listening to my words. I am giving you some food for thought if you haven’t thought of this before. Sometimes, we know it but we don’t remember it. This is a reminder. We already know all this stuff. We just need reminders sometimes. Upset draws upset. Where you are is all you have. Love it. Release the upset, the drama, and the fear. Stepping towards what you want will make your life better and the lives of others and humanity as well.
Silence Is Golden
Another piece I want to talk to you about is silence is golden. This is point number two. We have our techie devices with us all the time. We always have noise going on. We hear people say, “I leave it on in the background for the noise.” I’m like, “Silence is golden.” Do you remember that song? It was a beautiful song back in probably the ‘60s or at least the ‘70s when I was a teen. It truly is.
When we did that little exercise at the beginning of being still and knowing and taking a 22-second mini vacation or taking a breathing exercise, we’re going to do it again because it’s so critical. I want to take another 22-second mini vacation with you so that we can practice this when we need a moment. When things are chaotic, stop and listen to yourself for a second. Take a deep breath.
Let’s do it. Let’s take another 7 seconds of calm. It’s coming in. Here we go. Breathe in calm, hold, relax, and release gratitude. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You can’t do that enough throughout your day. While you’re doing that, get grounded. Touch a tree. Walk barefooted. Do something that’s going to serve your body to get more energized. I want you to hear that. It’s so critical. We don’t slow down our input from external circumstances enough to relax and enjoy the moment. It’s all we have.
That still, small voice inside of you knows everything. They’ve done scientific studies and know for a fact that every cell in your body is energetically connected. In the quantum field, we’re energetically connected, all of us together. It also means we’re energetically connected to all the wisdom of the world, all of the history, and all the wisdom that has been out, and there’s a lot.
When you have an issue or a problem, you forget where something is. It really works. You stop and be still. Let your spirit remind you of those things that you need to remember and be feeling and go, “Hmm.” We collect these habits. What if we changed some of those habits and took a walk or drank a big glass of water and thought about the beauty of the world instead of what we see which seems crazy?
What if we continue at night, especially before we go to bed, to settle in, put on some soft music or a candle? Quiet your mind. Turn off all devices, including scrolling the news at least 30 minutes or so before you go to sleep. Let your mind start listening to itself. I guarantee you, you’ve got the answers for everything. They’re already inside of you.
Let your mind start listening to itself. You have the answers for everything inside of you. Share on XIt’s worth taking the time to be still and know. Listen to that still, small voice. Turn off all the noise, especially the news, the negative fear-mongering, keep my attention. How much does it affect you? How much does it affect what you can do? If you can do something, go help somebody in need. Do that. Help your neighbor. Let’s get back into our communities so we can love one another and lift each other up.
Turn off that noise, get grounded, stay centered, and walk into who we are, who we say we are, and who we want to be. Consider responding rather than reacting to all the stimuli or things that come in at us all the time. Life keeps life-ing is the way we say it. Things happen. Are things always beautiful and rosy? Not at all. It’s how you respond. If you’re sad, be sad, but don’t live there. If you’re upset, be upset for a moment, but don’t put up an address sign. Don’t change your address. Be who you choose to be instead of reacting to everything right around you.
Choose Who You Are
We’re stepping into number three, the third way to keep you happy. These are messages I talk about all the time. In the context of keeping you happy, I have a friend, Elian Haan, who has a talk called Get Your Sexy Back. I love that. Who doesn’t want that? Mine is about happy. Let’s get out happy back. Who I am is joy. I always say, “Choose joy.” I’m not talking about things that I don’t live. Understand that you get to choose who you are and who you want to be in this world.
Every word matters. I talked about my book already, Split-Second Transformation Change Your Words, Change Your Life: 31 Daily Practices. If I sign a book to you, it’s going to say, “Remember, every word matters.” Speak what you want, not what you don’t want. Why do we do that? I’ve said this before. There’s a silly example. My friend kicked my little stool like, “That damn stool.” I said, “Why are you damning my stool?” It’s such a small thing, but it’s to snap into, “Why would I curse on anything, especially things that are innate that don’t matter?” Why are we spending our energy cursing things?
In that regard, do you curse your blessings? I hear it a lot. People are like, “This job is killing me.” You’ve got a job. I say, “Cancel.” When I hear those words, I say it silently sometimes for other people because that’s not what you want. You wanted to speak more about what you want. Why are we cursing our blessings? Why do we have the expletives right around the things good and bad? Often, they’re good things. Some say, “This damn car.” It’s yours. Why are you cursing it? Why don’t you bless it? A master is one who blesses even in the darkest place, even when somebody cuts you off.
This is a fun example to me. What if you’re upset that somebody cut you off? Maybe you need to go to the bathroom more than I do. You could be in a yucky circumstance. You could have a crisis going on. We’re going to go back to that first concept. You’re there. You get to choose. Are you going to accept it because it’s what’s so?
You can’t be anywhere else than where you are. I’m going to nail that home over and over because we’re always living in the past or the future, but we only have right now and this second. If I don’t like what I said, I can’t change it. I can change the next words, not the last words. You get to choose. Use your words wisely. They’ve been proven. If you’re a complainer, it takes a lot to stop it because if you’ve done it enough, it builds tracks in your brain that continue to groove deeper.
Why do you want to become a whiner or complainer? If you are in that negative mindset and everything is always wrong, what can you do to change that? It will take some work. Every word matters, so I can say, “It’s hard to change,” but I want to say, “I bet it’s easy to change that. I’m going to change it, and I’m going to have fun doing it. I’m going to find everything I can to be happy about. I’m going to choose to be happy or content living a peaceful life or a joyful life every minute despite my circumstances.”
You can be a victim or you can be a victor. You can change your words and change your life. You can shift if you choose from that pessimistic, “Everything is wrong,” looking for what’s wrong, grasping onto what’s wrong, holding onto it, and then complaining about it all day. You can do that or you can go, “Why am I upset about somebody cutting me off that I’m still talking about it six hours later or two days later?” What if we released it and let it go? It happened. It floated through my life. Let it go. You’ll have a simpler, smoother, and more happy life.
How do you get your happy back? You get it back by looking for the good. The number one easy key is gratitude. It is saying, “Thank you. Thank you that I can open my eyes right now.” If you don’t feel very grateful, find something. Say, “I’m thankful that I have feelings in my fingers.” It can be anything. Find something. It could be, “I’m thankful that when I stubbed my toe, I didn’t break it.” Find something worth your time to be thankful for. If you start doing that on a regular basis, gratitude is the key. Forgiveness is another key. That’s another day’s story. You want to live in gratitude.
When I’m driving, I never have sound on in my car. I rarely have sound on, music, news, or anything. I drive and I’m like, “Thank you.” I’m enjoying the journey and living in gratitude. My mantra is, “Thank you.” My other mantra, “Everything is always working out for me.” Even if your circumstances don’t feel like it right now since it’s all you have, they are working out for you because if you can take a breath at this moment, you’ve been provided for.
I don’t care if you’re in the gutter or if you’re in the castle. If you can take a breath, you have been provided for one way or the other. That’s true. If you can’t take a breath, then that’s another conversation, pushing up daisies. I’m grateful to be breathing free oxygen. As Vincent Agbatorgo would say, “I am breathing free oxygen on this side of the dirt.”
I’d like to add in It’s the attitude. Attitude is everything. Look at yourself. Step back out and watch. Look at yourself when you’re upset or grouchy. Get over yourself. I’m not kidding. Nobody cares. Laugh. Start laughing. My late sister, Shirley, you could hear her laughter in the next town. She laughed. She was known for that. We need to laugh a little bit more. Turn off that black box of negative fear-based mind control. Go outside. Pick a flower. Dig in the dirt. Do something. Sit, relax, and read a real book. I’ve got some good books for you to read. They’re short. It wouldn’t take you long. Every word matters.
I will add that who you are is who you say you are. I’ll remind you that who you are is who you say you are. Whatever you say after the words “I am” is who you are. I am not religious. God’s name is the Great I AM. He lives within us. When we say, “I am,” we’re telling ourselves who we are. When you say, “I am tired,” unless it’s time to go to bed, you are going to be more tired every time you say it. You’ll get more tired. If you said, “I’m refreshed and energized,” you know it. If you tune in to the show, I say this a lot. What if you shifted that one word? I know people say, “I’m lying to myself because I am tired.” You’re not going to get less tired.
Are you speaking what you want or are you speaking what you don’t want? Are you focusing on the negative or the positive? You get to choose. It’s all a choice. You’ll be a happier person. You’ll live a happier life if you start living in gratitude, speaking what you want, and choosing the positive over the negative. These are all basic concepts. We’ve all heard it. I like to remind us. I’m talking to myself when I’m doing this.
You are who you say you are. Get out a pen and paper. Write down, “Who am I?” I am wealthy, wise, fit, fabulous, and fun. Who are you? “I am,” because you get to choose. I am wealthy. Do I have enough money? No, but there’s no lack in this world. There’s plenty in this world. There’s no lack of abundance. There’s a little distribution problem sometimes. If you can take a breath, you’re wealthy. You’ve got a breath of life and a chance to take the next step and do something a little bit different and a little bit more proactive towards changing your life.
There are countless stories of people. I met a woman. She was trafficked, raped, and had a baby by her brother at eleven. Now, she’s a CEO of multiple companies. She chose to break that pattern or break that generational curse in her life. We can do that. We have a choice. Turn off the television. Find a positive program. Get a good coach. Call me. Let me help you. Let’s do something and get you in your happy place on a regular basis.
If more of us were a little happier, the vibrations and our energetic connections would improve not just us but our surroundings, other people, and our communities. It’s the butterfly effect. It affects the whole world when we’re happy. The whole world smiles with us. It’s that old song. Listen to yourself. Get clear that you are worth it. You are worthy. Say who you are.
If more people are a little happy, their vibrations and energetic connections would improve our surroundings and communities. Share on XI have downloadable notes about this if you want. I was meant to mention that in the beginning. You get to say who you are. Who are you? I am Charla. Who Charla is is bold faith and no fear. Who I am is bold faith and no fear, and I’ve proven that. I’ll talk about being robbed at gunpoint with no fear at another time. Who I am is outrageously optimistic. Who I am is outrageously courageous. Who I am is happy. Who I am is thankful. Who I am is abundantly generous.
I’m speaking what I want. It’s not necessarily what I have at the moment, but I’m speaking what I want and who I am in this world. I am generous. I am kind. I am healthy, wealthy, wise, fabulous, and fun. That’s who I am. I get to speak who I want to be and who I am in this world. If you’ve been diagnosed with something, you don’t have to claim it. You don’t have to say, I have.” You can say, “I’ve been diagnosed with. I’m choosing to see myself and envision who I want to be and who I am in my future.” You focus on that and it will draw to you. You’ll heal much faster in my experience or my estimation.
Episode Wrap-Up
I’m so grateful you took the time to tune in. I hope this message makes a difference for you on how to get your happy happy back, get happy, and stay happy. This is Charla Anderson. I love you. Unconditional love and unconditional forgiveness is my message. Not unconditional boundaries, but just love. Be who you are. Be the best you can be. Be kind. Do no harm. Leave the world a better place. If we all did that, what do you think would happen? We’d have a better world. This is Charla Anderson, signing off. I’m so grateful that you would take the time to tune in. For my weekly show, come and find me at CharlaAnderson.com. I’m really grateful. As I always love to say, choose joy.
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