Are YOUR Words Blessing or Cursing Your Life?
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Introduction
Good, beautiful day, beautiful, beautiful souls! This is Charla Anderson, host of the Charla Anderson Show~Collector & Connector of Fascinating People (& EVERYONE is Fascinating!), especially you.
So grateful you would join us today, and you know every word matters. You heard me say it a million times. That’s a theme. But today we’re going to have strong reminders. Because are you blessing yourself or cursing yourself with the words that you speak? …BUT FIRST…
We’re gonna do my 22 second mini vacation. We’re gonna go take in some gratitude for 7 seconds. Hold for 4 seconds and release for 11 seconds. So let’s take a moment to get settled and grounded, and be still for a moment. Here we go, breathe in some calm. cold relax, release.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for taking that moment with me every week we do that just to get settled and centered.
And I’m so thrilled that you seem to enjoy that as my guest here. So thank you so very much for always being here every Wednesday, listening, podcast wherever you are, I’m eternally grateful. Today we’re going to talk about how every word matters. I wrote a book called Split Second Transformation. Change your words, change your life. 31 daily practices. It’s available on Amazon, and of course I’ll have it in the description. Change your words, change your life. 31 daily practices just reminders every day. You want that, don’t you? I know you do. And what I continue to stress in my show. I mean, we’ve got to. We’ve got to learn to love ourselves enough to pay attention to what’s important. What matters? What is the most important case here? You know.
We say things so flippantly without realizing it. Right? We don’t have a clue that we say, Oh, man, this job is killing me, or I am so mad, and you know you make me so angry, and nobody can. By the way, nobody can make you angry without your permission. Nobody can make you upset without your permission. Nobody can, you know, hurt your feelings without your permission, or offend you without your permission. So you get to choose. It’s a huge gift to be able to choose, and it’s all choice. So every word matters. I wanted to just, you know, harp on this theme on today’s Charla’s chat, my solo show that I do monthly. I really want to delve into that just a little bit stronger and really try to get you to understand the incredible importance.
You know we say things that curse ourselves. And I have. You know people that say, Oh, I hate you know this weather. Oh, I hate that man. What? That’s a really strong word, but is it the truth? I mean, it’s a really strong word. I hate all these leaves in my yard. I hate, you know, hate is a very strong word to use, and we use it a lot, or I hate this person, or I hate this food right?
Why do you want to put that out there? And what if we shifted that? You know we all have preferences. There’s nothing wrong with that. Of course, preferences are important. We get to choose. We get to have a preference. I prefer this over that. But when we kind of hurt. Hating is cursing in a way, and when we say things like this, job is killing me. I would say, cancel cancel because we all make mistakes and say things that we don’t particularly mean.
But what if you watched your words and quit cursing yourself when you claim things with words? What you say after the words I am is who you are, and it’s who you are becoming. If you repeat it often enough. It is actually who you become. Every word matters, and I am what you say after I am. I am is the breath of life. It’s God’s name. He says in the Bible, this is a religion. God says his name is, I am that I am, and and I do this because it’s an a.
But why are we cursing ourselves when we say whatever we say after I should. And I’m not a big shoulder, but should actually be a blessing we would never. And I, my mentor, Brenda Byers. Just recently I heard her say that when you say I am, you should only say things that you would say about God, because we know it’s the God in us, I am in us.
So it’s critically important to speak your desires clearly and not curse who you know who you are, you, you know, say I, I have this disease. Well, that’s you know, pretty much your subconscious hears those things your subconscious hears. You know you say I I’m I am. I am so sick and tired. Well, all your subconscious hears is sick and tired. It doesn’t hear.
You know, and it restarts drawing that to you. It starts drawing the things to you that you don’t particularly want in my guess. You don’t want to be sick and tired. You’re just so sick and tired. It’s just a phrase we use.
I’m just, I’m so angry I’m so upset I’m so tired, and that’s certainly the example I use the most. What if we shifted that one word? Tired to refreshed, energized, pumped. I’m energized. and I know we all think we’re, you know, lying to ourselves.
But what if we’re speaking what we want rather than or what we desire, which is of the father. Want is lack. The definition of want is lack. The definition of desire is of the Father of desire, the father, the giver.
Every word matters, and I’m you know I’m here to just give you those strong, strong reminders that you know don’t claim things that aren’t yours. You might. And I’ve said this every time I talk about this, I say, if you’ve been diagnosed with something you can say, you know, it’s okay.
I’ve been diagnosed with whatever I’m doing, what I need to do. But you don’t say I have something that you don’t desire. You don’t want to claim that and put that disease on you, your subconscious, I mean, it’s scientifically proven now. I mean, it’s been known for many centuries from ancient times.
But now, in our time it’s actually been scientifically proven that your subconscious controls so much. And I just want you to hear that I want you to understand that you’re worth it. You’re worth it.
You’re so incredibly worth it. And I want to. You know I wrote some. I am affirmations in 2011. I mean, it’s been a long, long time ago that I wrote these affirmations, and I would be happy to send you a copy along with a recording that I’ve done of them.
Back in the day, I called them declarations, but I found out that affirmations I am declarations you I will. So I’m going to just read these to you. It’s 2 min. There’s a lot of them, but they go really, really fast, and I’m just going to read it to you. I am affirmations for living a joyful life of intentional significance. Because I am your child. God! I declare your promises. I proclaim and declare victory over my home and my life. My home shall be a place of joy, peace, simplicity, beauty, and love.
I have everything I need to live in prosperity which is complete peace, everything I need God is planted within me, and I claim it now. And you just repeat, these daily. I am always on time. I’m always fully prepared. I move with speed and intention, urgency. I’m organized, I’m scheduled in detail. My daily planning. My systems are simple. I am focused. I am bold, I am courageous, I am confident. I’m relaxed, and I always have fun. I am boldly decisive. I choose to live powerfully. I am an intentional listener. I’m an excellent communicator. and I speak truth in love. I’m a gifted leader. I’m abundantly generous. I am disciplined, living each moment on purpose. I am healthy, wealthy, wise, fit, fabulous, and fun. I create magical moments. I am a gifted writer. I’m an inspired speaker. I expect miracles.
I am a spiritual mentor. I am making a difference. I choose to live each moment to my best. I have everything within me to be wildly successful. I am surrounded by positive people. I attract successful people willing to invest in me. I boldly choose excellence, no matter what.
Feel free to email me at charla@charlaanderson.com and I’ll get you a copy of those if we say them, and some of them have, you know, over the years. Some of them have manifested more than others.
Am I always on time? Am I always fully prepared? Not necessarily. But I’m getting there, you know. I’m better than I was, and I attract successful, willing people willing to invest in me. It has absolutely been manifested multiple, multiple times. There’s so many people I’ve come in contact with and have invested their time and energy in me. That’s my wish and dream for you.
Become who you say you are, you do become who you say you are, that is a fact. and there’s truth and fact in your brain. If you’re a complainer, and you know some complainers. ask yourself, am i 1 of them, because if you are there you’ve built a track in a little, and it gets deeper and deeper the more you do it, the more you complain that this rut in your brain gets, it attracts more to complain about.
It attracts more to complain about. Do you want that upset draws upset, you know. Speaking things you don’t want brings the things you don’t want to you.This is so critically important, and I’m not doing all the scientific stuff around it. And actually, Biblical stuff, you know. You know, be still and know thinking. If, as a man think, if you get what you speak. The power of life and death is in the tongue. There’s a lot of Scripture around all of that, and you know your integrity is involved here, speak who you choose to be.
See yourself being, ask, believe, receive, ask, believe that it’s already on its way. Receive you. Have we? We manifest this way.
Truly, can you imagine being the person that is just delighted? You wake up in gratitude so that is the key, any time that there’s any of these conversations. The number one thing you must do is gratitude.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. And I say, you know I have other affirmations. I say all the time everything is always working out for me everything, all is well.
Money comes easily. I’m refreshed, and I have all the time that I need. Man. Doesn’t that cover a lot? Right? Money comes easily. I’m refreshed, and I have all the time that I need.
I love that one. That was my original. It’s fine. And I just feel like that. Really, you know, it’s like, man. I’m tired. I’m just. I need more money, and I’m running out of time. I’m late. So I created that love for that one.
And I, you know, if you are in comments and want to, you know, in one of the places that has comments, feel free. What? Who do you say you are? Do you need help? Do you need help and encouragement to speak life, not death, over your life?
And what if we, you know when? When?
I listen. You know this hate thing so often. It brings more things to him. Be hate hating when you hate something. It opens the door for more things to come to you to hate. Who wants that, you know, really?
What if we just chose just began watching our language? And when we catch ourselves saying, I’m I’m so sick, or I’m so mad, or whatever it is.
Cancel, cancel, cancel, cancel. I choose a different word I choose, because we’re you know. I say this again. I mean, if you listen to me a bunch, you know I need to hear things a thousand times, you know, to start getting it right. So a lot of this has been decades of personal development, listening and learning and learning to speak differently, and I love it when people call me out, because I certainly am not an expert. I’m better than I was.
I’m better than a lot of people at speaking positive stuff. I know people think I’m a Pollyanna, because I only want to speak positive stuff that I don’t, that ‘s not reality. Well, I’m telling you it is my reality. I don’t. I choose not to engage or indulge in negative stuff. I don’t allow the negative stuff. I don’t watch the big black box on the wall. I don’t listen to the fear-based media. I just don’t, and I believe you know, 71 years old. I’m still alive. I’m still functioning and function, and are probably healthier than most people I know.
And why not? Why not? Why why not? Just? My reality is, you know, it doesn’t mean I don’t deal with what I have to deal with like. If you get diagnosed with something, you absolutely do what you need to do to take care of it, not saying otherwise. That’s silly.
But I don’t have to embrace it as mine. Every word matters, and you are worth listening to that
to yourself. Speak and start practicing different means of communication. You know people say these things all the time, and we are gonna be present. Be in the now. What does that really mean?
I didn’t. I didn’t know but I’ve kind of learned. If you know I’ve got grandbaby here for 3 or 4 days, sometimes at a time, and you know I don’t get much else done because I want to be present with her. She’s just too adorable. I keep running the battery off my phone because of all the videos I take of her.
But, you know, she’s so smart, and I want to encourage that. The vocabulary and the you know, and I want her. She says her own affirmations, and she remembers them. I love it that she says I am happy, and I am smart, and I am strong, and I am helpful, and I am kind, and I am trustworthy, and I just was teaching her. I’m brave, and I can do hard things, and I am. I told her last weekend. I have integrity. It means I honor my word, I speak what I want, I speak.
Honoring your word. Is the definition a definition of integrity? That means you do what you say, you say, what you do, and I want her to hear that early and and I you know, trustworthy. She says that, and she knows what it means. I’ve said. May I trust you to sit here while I run in the house and get your water? You know, whatever it is.
I just adore her, and she is so trustworthy because she’s barely 3. So she’s got, you know, we’re gonna have a lot of fun over the years. But she’s you know. She wants to go to Nanny’s house. She loves coming here, and I just know the rest of the stuff goes out the window. Everything else I was gonna do or need to do, I usually would be doing. But she’s worth it.
And that’s where I’m being present in the moment I’m saying things that are important to let her hear. And we, you know, we read the books she learns. Oh, she’s learning, tapping. We’ve got, you know, the tapping. If you don’t know about tapping. It’s a very great exercise to help you retrain yourself. There’s there’s certain meridian points on your body, and that’s another story,
but she’s got a book called Gorilla Thumps and Bear Hugs, and it’s about gorilla thumps and bear hugs tapping these places, and karate chop and anyway, I’m I, you know, on my chat show. This is Charla’s Chat. I just chat, you know. I just come up with things that are on my heart that I want to share, that I think are important. That mattered to me. I’m a broken record. I want people to love them. I want you to love yourself enough to speak your truth.
Speak what you who you see yourself as. and you know there’s people that don’t love themselves very much. We call it often they’re bullies, right? They don’t love themselves enough to know how to love others. These are constant themes on my show, because I just love the positive.
I love serving humanity through offering reminders to speak what you want, what you desire, not what you don’t want, and then you know, I was thinking about some of the other aspects of this, and you know it’s personal development is I’m a personal development junkie, I believe, probably since high school just love, love, love, love, learning about. I love psychology. I love ideas behind all that.
So I have affirmations. It’s like a cornerstone. I’ve got some couple of notes up forgot I even had here but a cornerstone of personal development, truly, and you know, if you understand that you’re manifesting all the time and it when you speak, whatever you’re speaking, I want or I desire you’re manifesting, and if you choose to speak those things, and you know, say, and see yourself receiving them, ask, believe, receive, and Jesus said, we can do what he did, and even more and even more. That’s a lot. Speak, ask, believe, believe, receive! But you’ve got to.
I think that we’ve not been taught some of this in the fundamental religions. You know that we can do what Jesus did, and even more. And if that’s the case, why aren’t we manifesting more.
Why aren’t we?
Why, why aren’t we?
If we can do what Jesus did, and even more, if we can feed 5,000
if we can walk on water, if we can change the weather, if we can heal the sick and we raise the dead, if we, you know, and even more. What about water to wine? I like that one, really, you know. in John 1412. And this isn’t religious. This is just truth, it is truth.
And there’s, you know, we’ve been kind of minimized that we had this kind of power, that we do have that much power inside of us, and there’s been so much proof around that, too, as well. So it really the IM information serve to guide you in personal development. They help in setting intentions.
Come on, girl, and goals that are aligned with our true selves in encouraging us to live authentically and pursue our passions. The power of I am is not just in the in words, but in the belief and action behind them.
Choose your words wisely, and let them guide you towards becoming the best version of yourself, and when you say action, the next right action, my my mentor, Brenda Byers I mentioned earlier, is.
You know, she says there’s a success formula, and it’s like a mindset plus skill set plus right. Action is the secret to success. Mindset. We’re in a talking mindset all the time when you’re talking, when you’re listening to me.
That’s a fact, mindset plus skill set plus right action and get. And honestly, this has been a challenge for me not just. you know the clarity around things. What do I want? Where am I headed? What am I doing now? Why am I doing it?
So taking an action. Step nobody, you know, you ask, believe, receive, and I promise you that doesn’t mean sitting. You’re sitting on the couch with a remote to and will receive. No, you’ve got to be in movement. You’ve got to be in action.
So this is just me talking again once again, over and over and over again about your words. Matter, every word matters. There’s 0 reason to continue cursing yourself. You speak something that you, by the way, you know we speak what we want or desire. and then we go, and and and all of a sudden it’s already on its way, the universe or the manifestors, you know, bringing it, the givers giving, and it’s on its way. And then we said, But I can’t afford it.
Whoop! You spoke a word. You cursed yourself. You cursed your blessing. You cursed your blessing. I can’t afford it, or yeah, but I don’t deserve it, or it’s not here yet, you know I don’t. I’m tired of waiting. What, when I say, speak what you desire. See that it’s on its way. Relax and let it come. And I was taught, you know. Begging isn’t the way to get what you want, but God doesn’t expect begging. If you’re praying, he said. Expect, ask, believe, receive, and don’t negate it by you. By changing your words, I mean by, you know cursing your words by, you know. Yeah. Oh, I wanna live here. But you know. Yeah, I’m not. I’m not.
I don’t have that kind of money, or you know, whatever you negate so many of the things that you want. We are all guilty of this. I’m not the only one talking about this. I’m probably the least eloquent talking about it because I want it. I just want to shake people and go. Every word matters. Quit cursing, quit speaking, hate, quit speaking anything but desire. And when things aren’t going your way because they don’t.
It’s still here. You only have this moment in time, that’s all you have. You don’t have the last second you didn’t have last week. You don’t have last minute last year, last generation since the beginning of time you have this moment listening to me. That’s the only moment you have, and if you don’t like it. If you’re in a bad place.
You’re the only one that can change it, and you can change it in your next action and your next word and your next book step. So even if this who I am is bold. Faith, now, I didn’t even say that one, and that’s what I say all the time. It’s not even on this affirmation sheet, but
Who I am is bold faith, no fear. Who I am is outrageously optimistic. Who I am is outrageously courageous. Who I am is who I say I am, and I am working very diligently to keep that language in my head. I quietly talk to myself. You know we’re talking to ourselves all the time, and I’m you know we say, that was so stupid! I was so you know what I was so stupid I’m so stupid.
Hmm!
Stop! Stop it!
I canceled that. No, I want I am powerful beyond measure.
I’m going to give you an example of something that I don’t think I’ve said on my show before, or at least it’s been a while. This is season 3, you know. So often we, something happens. This is the. This is what happens to us. Something happens. For instance, we get an F on a report card on our test in 7th grade
We are 5th grade. We get an F and we are. You know, we’re upset. We get an F, we make up a story. This is the truth. We make up a story about that F, and we plan it back here. We plant it in our back behind, you know, back in this little back of our noggin and say, I must be stupid. It’s a made up story. We’re not stupid, but we make up a story about it. We plan it back there, we forget we planted it back there, and for the rest of our lives
We’re continually finding reasons to validate something that is just a made up story. See? I told you I was stupid. See? I told you I was stupid. See, I know somebody says you’re stupid and you’re going. Yep, that’s it. I’m obviously I’m stupid, but you forget that it’s because you made up a story around making an F, and all you did was not study.
These are these, this is a critical thing to understand. We make up stuff and put it in the back. And we forget that we put it in this deep, dark place in our subconscious, and we continue going around looking for ways to validate things that are not true.
We’ve done stories like that about all kinds of stuff. So any of that negative talk. It’s probably something somebody said when you were 5 years old, 7 years old, 10 years old that you planted, and then you forgot you planted it. You made up the story about something somebody else said or did. It’s not who you are. It’s a story you made up and started believing. So start examining. You know. Maybe you start examining.
What stories did you make up and over, a bad grade, or lack of confidence, or I could never be a dancer. I could never be a soccer, you know. Whatever stories you make up about what’s going on in the world.
You made him up. You made them up, and you can change that. That’s where this is. This is the key. Once you recognize you’re saying, I see how stupid I am. I knew I was stupid. Once you recognize that you get to choose to change words. you can change that and go.
I’m that’s just not my, and I love this Brenda Byars again. My coach mentor. She’s like you know, that’s just not my reality. That’s a really good way. She says that she has done that about things that people have spoken over her, and she goes, you know. That’s just not the way I see it. That’s not the way I remember it. That’s not my reality.
As she speaks the truth of who she really is. I’m grateful for your time. I’m grateful that you would pay attention. I’m grateful that you listen every week on the Charla Anderson show. and I would love to have you reach out to charlaanderson.com. I kind of have a little.
I’ll send you my affirmations. I’ll probably send you some bonus ones, some of the other ones I just said maybe, and I spoke there and and a video recording. So you can actually listen to them if you want to.
Charla, charlaanderson.com, I will have them in a I think, on a landing page. I’m working on that. So find me. I’ll be happy to send them to you. Find the book, Charla Anderson Split Second Transformation. Change your words, change your life. 31 daily practices, and guess what
coaching program called Charla’s Courageous Clarity Coaching program. And I would love to talk about that with you if it’s something that would interest you, man, you know we all need. We coaches need coaches right? So we all need them, and so I’ve always been.
Oh, I can’t afford it. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have enough time. I don’t have enough. Those are all stories we make up, because. you know, if you, if you can take a breath you’ve been provided for, if you can breathe, if you can take a breath right now.
You have been provided for, even if you’re in the gutter you’ve been provided for, if you can take a breath. So if you don’t like it, you don’t like where you are, choose a different direction. Another step. and I’d love to hear from you if you have. If this blesses you at all, or, if you’re like, you’ve said this so many times, I don’t want to hear. I’m not listening to you anymore. I mean, whatever, because I do. It is a running theme, for sure. In my, in my conversation every word matters, and I teach things I need to know right. I teach it so that I can learn more and remember more to do it. how to speak, how to say what to say after I am.
I am powerful beyond measure, and I am grateful. I live in gratitude. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Is my running mantra as I’m driving as I’m walking whenever I wake up in the night. That’s it. Gratitude is key.
Thank you. Thank you for so very much for taking the time to pay attention with me. Listen. Today.
I appreciate it more than you know. I hope you join me next week. I do know an incredible guest next week Tracy Boone is going to be joining us. I you will be blown away by her story, so thank you for joining me, and I look forward to
hearing from you. I’d love to see you find, please. Oh, yes, subscribe to YouTube, at least, like I’m working on my YouTube. I appreciate you so much.
God bless and always, always, always choose joy.
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